What would you

DDD · May 18 10 11:14

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Natasha · May 18 10 11:45

I could go with either 1 or 2.

Itsy Bitsy · May 18 10 11:54

Number one I guess. Marriage means nothing to me. I want to be with a person who makes me happy and wants to live the same lifestyle. That's it.

Itsy Bitsy · May 18 10 11:58

Those don't seem to be distinctly seperate categories though. I mean what is the difference exactly b/t number 1 and 4?

I got the impression it want like this

1. Great relationship, no marriage

2. Great relationship, plus marriage

3. Poor Relationship, plus marriage

4. Great Relationship, no marriage

Natasha · May 18 10 12:04

I took #4 to mean relationship over all else as in family, friends, kids, money, etc..

Itsy Bitsy · May 18 10 12:47

That makes sense. Except the first three didn't address those other issues, so it's not a fair comparison.

Natasha · May 18 10 01:18

I think that was the point. I mean not the fair comparison part but for it to be so extremely different than the others. But I guess only D would know that for sure.

DDD · May 18 10 05:12

I see we have some [img border=0 src="vny!://discoverseattle.net/forums/richedit/smileys/8.gif"]here from you two.............I will now [img border=0 src="vny!://discoverseattle.net/forums/richedit/smileys/8.gif"]try to clear up what i ment.

as I wrote it

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I got the impression it want like this

1. Great relationship, no marriage

2. Great relationship, plus marriage

3. Poor Relationship, plus marriage

4. Great Relationship, no marriage

I took #4 to mean relationship over all else as in family, friends, kids, money, etc..

I think that was the point. I mean not the fair comparison part but for it to be so extremely different than the others. But I guess only D would know that for sure.

and that is my life right now........................[/DIV]

Orik · May 18 10 05:38

1 & 2... don't need to be married to have a good relationship or a bad one. be with the one you love. but should the one you love, love somebody else... a divorce will cost you hell to pay..

4 Family comes first even before the relationship... if you have family to put first.

Natasha · May 18 10 07:05

DDD wrote:
I see we have some

here from you two.............I will now

try to clear up what i ment.

as I wrote it

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1. Great relationship, no marriage
2. Great relationship, plus marriage
3. Poor Relationship, plus marriage
4. Great Relationship, no marriage

[div]I took #4 to mean relationship over all else as in family, friends, kids, money, etc..

I think that was the point. I mean not the fair comparison part but for it to be so extremely different than the others. But I guess only D would know that for sure.

and that is my life right now........................[/div][/div] [div]

Ok now I'M confused. What is your life right now? #4?
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Natasha · May 18 10 07:06

Orik wrote:
4 Family comes first even before the relationship... if you have family to put first.

I completely agree and wouldn't have it any other way.

P.C. · May 18 10 11:23

[span style="font-weight: bold; font-style: italic;"]"4 Family comes first even before the relationship... if you have family to put first.[/span]"

I'm not sure what that means.

No Cookies Orik · May 19 10 03:06

family before dating,before a relationship to some one not blood related...

you mother your father your grand mother your grandfather your aunts and uncles your brothers and sisters.. they come before all else.. before work, before God, before church, before a royal beer-ing, before fishing, before a night out getting laid....

The family comes first! no mater what sacrifice is made for the greater good, you must! put the survival of the family first.

When married your Wife's family Is now your family and they have to be put first above all else the Family comes first.

I can not explain it....I am the first & the last, I have no brothers, no sisters. no mother no father. If I get married my wife's family would be my family. They would be put first.

Natasha · May 19 10 09:42

No Cookies Orik wrote:
[FONT size=2]family before dating [/FONT](yes),[FONT size=2]before a relationship[/FONT][FONT size=2] [/FONT](yes)
[FONT size=2]you mother your father your grand mother your grandfather your aunts and uncles your brothers and sisters.. they come before all else[/FONT]..(no.. I'm a mother, no person comes before that.) [FONT size=2]before work [/FONT](yes) [FONT size=2]before God [/FONT](*buzzer* No, nothing comes before God. Not even being a mother for I wouldn't be a mother if not for his intervention) [FONT size=2]before church [/FONT](yes. I don't feel a person has to attend church to be spiritually blessed) [FONT size=2]before a royal beer-ing [/FONT](yes) [FONT size=2]before fishing [/FONT](yes) [FONT size=2]before a night out getting laid [/FONT](yes)

When married your Wife's family Is now your family and they have to be put first above all else the Family comes first.

Agree and vice versa.. the man is now your family as well and he should also be made a priority.

Itsy Bitsy · May 19 10 10:43

For me, my lover would be my family and yes they'd come first. Next would come my related family (nephew, niece, dad, sister, brother, mom) <- in that order (yes I absolutely have favorites). Then would come extended family and friends. I'm an athiest, so I get to take god and church out of the equation. I'm also not a mother, so that's not in the equation either... though I agree that your children should be put first. Of course all of these people would come before work/ career, fun/ hobbies, etc.