okay basically I'm saying when my grandma goes that link to the past is gone. Nobody in my family for example cooks the things she does, none of us speak german or hungarian.
The link may be gone, but it doesn't change the history. If it matters to you, try learning to cook the things she does to pass down some history to the future little SD's. I don't know how learning the language of your ancestors connects you to your heritage. It just makes you know another language. I wouldn't feel any more connected to my grandmother if I learned to speak french. I feel MORE connected when I do things she used to do. When I'm in the garden, or enjoying nature is when I feel MOST connected, and it has nothing to do with cultural background and everything to do with WHO she was.
Basically I feel like Quebec feels about the french language. Its there last link to the past and they are afraid of losing it. Thats how I feel anyway.
There's nothing wrong with having respect for ones past, but clinging to it, unwilling to move forward because of it seems pointless to me.