How does one flirt.....

Lise · Mar 27 08 08:41

..... without attracting scumbags or giving the wrong signals?

Not that I do it, of course. *cough cough* Is being friendly to the opposite sex giving off the wrong signal?

I was.... thinking the other day, this guy started talking to me. I mean, I initiated being friendly with him because I'm just that type of person. I like saying 'hi' and 'how are you' to everyone I met. Or smile. I asked this dude about his day and how he liked being here. Innocent right?

On Tues he waited for everyone to go then approached me to talk about Easter and what not. I just KNEW he was interested in me. You can see it. It's so damn sweet and lovely but I felt so bad. Like I haven't said anything so I kinda had to let him off gently.

I talked about my kids.

Then I saw his face fell. OMG. [FONT size=1]I feel so so so so bad and small[/FONT]. He excused himself, beat a hasty retreat. He was so sweet and gentle that it made re-think that perhaps I must have been flirting too much??? Perhaps there's a consequence to one's actions afterall?? But how can being friendly and asking about your day and so forth be considered flirting? *confused*

Maybe next time I should just shaddap and not talk. *puts band-aid on mouth*

purelife · Mar 27 08 09:00

Lise - I don't think you did anything wrong. You're one hawt gal, Lise and your friendly attention to this guy just melted his heart. This guy just took it the wrong way because he was actually out there looking for a girl who responded to him. You bad girl, you weren't wearing your ring, heh?

hee hee... (j/k)

Sportsdude · Mar 27 08 09:01

i don't see why you should punish yourself socially because you're married. I've don't get the idea of that because you're married you can't have a social life. lol

drop in a line or two about the new family car or something.

P.C. · Mar 27 08 09:01

Working towards a promotion Lise ?

Lil Me · Mar 27 08 09:01

Aw Lise. Not your fault...you were just being friendly.

This has happened to me on more than one occasion...I have no problem with talking to people....but I'm not a girly person, neither am I "flirty". But I don't normally wear a wedding ring...jewelry doesn't mesh with active lifestyle, so I leave it at home unless I'm going out for dinner.

P.C. · Mar 27 08 09:03

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P.C. · Mar 27 08 09:05

OK....now I've read more carefully (shame on me)......I can't imagine that you could think you did anything wrong. Don't change what you do.....there isn't enough 'friendly' around.

purelife · Mar 27 08 09:10

You ladies are funny.

I know what you mean about not wearing rings, LM. I often take it out if I'm out there doing something physical but forget sometimes. I'm not really a ring person anyhow.

ok...back to original question of how to flirt.

If I was single, I would be smiling to all the guys who look my way. That's the first thing I would do along with staring deep into their eyes. When our eyes meet, I smile and if he does, he knows.

P.C. · Mar 27 08 09:13

I would say that if anyone is confused, Lise.....it would be the poor fellow who mistook friendly conversation for flirting. Take that bandaid off your mouth....and keep being friendly.

Russ · Mar 27 08 09:51

Dont worry about it Lise.. You are a very likable person, he probably couldnt believe his luck thinking you were single until you mentioned your new family car..

Best way to do it. How do I know this?

I get the same thing when Im home. I get it alot to be honest.. and I dont have a ring, yet.

purelife · Mar 27 08 09:54

I get the same thing when Im home. I get it alot to be honest.. and I dont have a ring, yet.

[/DIV]Does it make you feel good that someone out there finds you attractive?

Van · Mar 27 08 09:57

For me, there is a smile, and then there is a SMILE! That is all there needs to be from a girl to know she is flirting or just being friendly. You just know. If there is any doubt of a mixed signal, then approach carefully!

purelife · Mar 27 08 10:02

Van wrote:
For me, there is a smile, and then there is a SMILE! That is all there needs to be from a girl to know she is flirting or just being friendly. You just know. If there is any doubt of a mixed signal, then approach carefully!

Van's the Tiger ready to pounce on his Tigress. Hear him ROAR!

Van · Mar 27 08 10:08

purelife wrote:
Van's the Tiger ready to pounce on his Tigress. Hear him ROAR!

LOL!!

Russ · Mar 27 08 10:18

purelife wrote:

Does it make you feel good that someone out there finds you attractive?

Starfish? Of course Im happy that we are attracted to each other.. Er, is that your question?

LOL, You are on your own there Tiger.