How Not To Lie

Started by TehBorken, Jul 10 06 07:51

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TehBorken

    [p align="center"][font class="newsletterHeading" size="4"]The Top Seven Signs that Someone is Lying to You[/font]
[font style="font-size: 11px;"]by [a href="vny!://www.sixwise.com/"]www.SixWise.com[/a][/font][/p][a name=""][/a]When it comes to finding out whether or not you're being  lied to, Gepetto had it easy. All it took was one look at Pinocchios's growing schnoz and he knew. Of course, most of  us don't have it that easy but could sure benefit if we did.                          [/p][table align="right" border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="6" width="1"][tbody][tr][td style="border-style: solid; border-color: rgb(153, 153, 153) rgb(51, 51, 51) rgb(51, 51, 51) rgb(153, 153, 153); border-width: 1px;" bgcolor="#ffeecc"]        [img]vny!://www.sixwise.com/images/articles/2005/06/29/swearing_in.jpg" alt="Sworn In" height="195" width="144"][/p]       Do you swear to tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth? Probably not--estimates say most  people lie once or twice a day![/p]        [/td][/tr][/tbody][/table] It seems that we're largely a nation of liars, with some  estimates saying that most people lie to others one or twice  a day, and in about 30 percent to 38 percent of our interactions  in all.        Why we lie varies. Around the age of 4 or 5, when we start   telling lies, it's done not maliciously, but rather to gain  awareness and use the power of language, says Dr. Gail Saltz, a psychiatrist with New York Presbyterian Hospital.[/p]Later on, we lie to get things we want, for personal gain  or to stay out of trouble. We tell "white lies"  to protect other's feelings, and then there are the pathological  liars among us, the people who feel compelled to lie no matter what.[/p]So, with liars all around us (don't lie -- we ALL lie at one point or another, even those "little white lies" count), it's imperative to know the signs that someone may  be lying to you. Here are seven of the classic signs to watch out for ... [/p]Seven Common Signs of Lying[/p][ol][li]          No eye contact. Generally, if someone is lying they will not look you in the eye, at least during a certain  part of the conversation. Normally, people make eye contact  for at least half of a conversation, so anything less  than this could be suspicious. One caveat: there are some people who will take great pains to make eye contact with you even if they're lying, simply to make you think they're  not.[/p][/li]                              [table align="right" border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="6" width="1"][tbody][tr][td style="border-style: solid; border-color: rgb(153, 153, 153) rgb(51, 51, 51) rgb(51, 51, 51) rgb(153, 153, 153); border-width: 1px;" bgcolor="#ffffdd"]          [img]vny!://www.sixwise.com/images/articles/2005/06/29/liedetector.jpg" alt="Lie Detector Test" height="157" width="240"][/p]         You don't need a lie detector test to find out if  someone's lying to you --just check out these seven  signs of lying.[/p][/td][/tr][/tbody][/table][li]          Change in voice. A change in the pitch of a person's tone, or a lot of stammering (umm, ah), or throat clearing  could indicate a lie.[/p] [/li][li]          Unusual body language. If a person taps their  foot a lot, fidgets with their hands, raises their shoulders,  turns away from you or brings their hand to their face  (to touch their chin or nose, etc.) -- in other words,  if they act nervous or uncomfortable -- it could mean  they're telling a lie. Also watch out for blushing (or  becoming pale) and increased blinking.[/p] [/li][li]          Something sounds fishy. Making statements that  contradict each other, are inconsistent or don't sound quite right are usually part of a lie. [/p] [/li][li]          Overly defensive. Sometimes when a person is  lying they will become extremely defensive, refusing to answer any questions and even accusing you of lying. This  may mean they have something to hide. [/p] [/li][li]          Changes subject easily. If someone is lying and  you change the subject, chances are high that they'll go right along with it. A person telling the truth, however,  will likely ask why you changed the subject and want to  go back to it. [/p]  [/li][li]          Humor or sarcasm. A guilty person will often  try to change the subject using humor or sarcasm.[/p][/li][/ol]Of course, no one behavior can tell for sure whether or not someone is telling the truth or lying. While you should trust your instinct, if you're not sure it's best to try to get some evidence to back up your accusation. Rather than relying on a specific behavior, catching a liar in the act is best done by watching their normal behaviors. When those behaviors suddenly change, that's when a lie has likely been told.

Recommended Reading[/p][a href="vny!://www.sixwise.com/newsletters/05/06/22/faces.htm"]The  Powerful Influencing Effect of People's Faces on Your Behavior  [/a] [/p]  
The real trouble with reality is that there's no background music.

Some Chick

Another sign is that just before responding with a lie, the person will look down and to the left.