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I'm curious to see where you stand. I mean, what do you think about ppl going out with co-workers?

  Management has hinted that they frown on romance between co-workers but at the same time I don't think you will find a clause that said you're not allowed to have some type of romantic inclination towards each other. I mean, can they stop you? Heck, we've had staff members going out with students before, even marrying each other. Then again, once you've graduated, they've got no say.

  Whare your thoughts?

I seen 2 cases of this.

  One where a guy and girl hooked up, but the guy left for another job right away.

  Another where a guy showed interest in a girl and the girl threatened him with a lawsuit for sexual harrassment.

  I have no problem with people hooking up at work.  I just couldn't imagine hooking up with a girl at work. It would be all sunshine and smiles the first little while. But my work is my space, my thing, my life. I am not sure if I would want to date a girl in the evening after I shared office politics with all day? It is good to have that space apart. If your space apart becomes the after hours, and your time together is while you are at work, that is kind of sad. I am glad I don't have to deal with office bs anymore anyways.

     
 

I voted No because I don't think it's a good idea.
 
 IMHO, a workplace romance affects people's judgement- the two people involved cannot hide their feelings, no matter how they try.  It makes life weird/uncomfortable for everyone else.  Plus, they two people inevitably discuss workplace issues between themselves, making each other privy to issues they may not normally deal with...but may ultimately get involved in for support of their lover.  Totally messes up the workplace chain of command (the ORG chart).
 
 
 
 
   

   
 

Lil Me makes a good point. I think it is fine if one of the people involved are planning on leaving soon anyways.

I don't know, maybe it is just me. I crave my own space. Working with someone all day, then seeing them all evening would drive me bonkers!

   
 

I voted no as well.  Not because I think it's 'wrong'....but because of the potential to be in a situation, where one or the other may end up having to leave their job if things don't pan out.  If it's just 'a job'....it could be less of an issue....but if it's your career, this could toss a few obstacles in your path in the future.

  *another part of me is with Lise's 'throw caution to the wind'.  Jobs come and jobs go....but romance is the spice of life.  I guess I'm a little wishy-washy on the subject.  (//vny!://discoverseattle.net/forums/richedit/smileys/Happy/12.gif)  

I don't have a problem with co-workers hooking up for some play too.  If it isn't a romance thing, just a lust thing. As long as I don't have to see it, I wouldn't care.

P.C. wrote:
I voted no as well.  Not because I think it's 'wrong'....but because of the potential to be in a situation, where one or the other may end up having to leave their job if things don't pan out.  If it's just 'a job'....it could be less of an issue....but if it's your career, this could toss a few obstacles in your path in the future.



*another part of me is with Lise's 'throw caution to the wind'.  Jobs come and jobs go....but romance is the spice of life.  I guess I'm a little wishy-washy on the subject.  (//vny!://discoverseattle.net/forums/richedit/smileys/Happy/12.gif)

 
 Another good point. Is it a McJob? Or a Software Engineering firm that a person has waited their whole life to work at? Every situation is different.

I have a friend who actually dated our boss at one place I worked .....and they ended up marrying.  They are still like newlyweds after 15 years.  

  I also was in another situation, where a friend dated our boss, and it was a MESS.  She ended up being given all kinds of privileges over people with greater seniority (and skill)  that made just about everyone resent her.  Neither the job or the romance lasted very long.

   

Michel wrote:  Romance doesn't means people should stop acting professionally.

  Well said Michel.  I imagine that's exactly the difference between the situations that work without it affecting those around them and those that don't.

  *I just thought of another couple that met at work and eventually married.....so I started thinking back, and realized that I know of several stories of wedded bliss stemming from the work place.

   

 

 P.C. wrote:
a friend dated our boss, and it was a MESS.  She ended up being given all kinds of privileges over people with greater seniority (and skill)  that made just about everyone resent her.  
 --
 I've heard this kind of complaint from several people...who feel powerless to do anything about it when the office romance between the boss and the co-worker is not supposed to be public knowledge, but everyone knows, and it's affecting workplace performance and morale.
 
 
 

Fortunately I work in an office of 1, so no weird romance going on here.
 
 Unfortunately the ownership of my business has turned into Melrose Place.
   

I work by myself, but I do flirt in the mirror sometimes.

   
 

I voted for 'yes' because I think romance is in short supply these days. I mean, if you like that someone (as long as you're not married or whatever) then you should go for it. Tho... I wouldn't go out with ANYONE in my workplace for all the money in the world. (//vny!://discoverseattle.net/forums/richedit/smileys/Happy/12.gif)

  Gorgeous dental students but alas, they're so young - it'd be like taking candy from a baby.

I voted no.

  If the relationship failed, I think there would be too much awkwardness.  I've seen two instances.  One of them ends up leaving the company.

  I don't think I would ever consider the possibility.  Work is work.  It's especially hard when the two of you work in the same dept, on the same floor and you see each other all the time.  I prefer to have my space.

  This is off topic but I would also add that I couldn't work at the same company as my partner.  ie.  Husband and wife works at the same company or same home business...together.  

Lise wrote:
  Gorgeous dental students but alas, they're so young - it'd be like taking candy from a baby. [/DIV]
 wow! That is some great confidence. You must be pretty hot!? Pics?

To think young college students would be interested in an older married lady and it would be like taking candy from a baby??

I've met Lise and I can say that she's hawt and beautiful.  For real. :)

I agree with purelife.
 To picture Lise...think of Lara Croft from Tomb Raider...maybe a bit shorter...with Iron Chef skills....and beautiful white teeth :)
   

If you are going to have an office romance...make it worthwhile.
 Don't ge involved with a geek from Accounting or IT.  lol
   

yeah yeah, lol, I am sure she is.

  I am all for people hooking up at a workplace too. Not romance, but lust. As long as they keep it to themselves and there are no emotional attachments. If they keep it to themselves, who is anyone to judge?

  lol, guess it is not that simple all the time.    

I don't see the problem. All you have to do is separate work from life. Politicians do it, no matter who they vehemently disagree with someone in their work setting, they all can have a beer and hang out with the person on 'the other side' on the weekend. People have a tendency to make things personal, that's why I don't think the general opinion is that this is a bad idea. So if it was in an office building and I was dating a co-worker she should know that if I disagree with her on an issue or she disagrees with me on an issue, it's not personal and doesn't change my opinion of the person.

Perfect example is James Carville who is a democratic advisor who is married to Mary Matalin who is a republican advisor. They literally work against each other and debate each other on tv. Yet they've been married for 15 years . lol
 

   

Just do this Michel:

 Sportsdude wrote:
I don't see the problem. All you have to do is separate work from life. [STRIKE]Politicians do it, no matter who they vehemently disagree with someone in their work setting, they all can have a beer and hang out with the person on 'the other side' on the weekend. People have a tendency to make things personal, that's why I don't think the general opinion is that this is a bad idea. [/STRIKE]So if it was in an office building and I was dating a co-worker she should know that if I disagree with her on an issue or she disagrees with me on an issue, it's not personal and doesn't change my opinion of the person.

[STRIKE]Perfect example is James Carville who is a democratic advisor who is married to Mary Matalin who is a republican advisor. They literally work against each other and debate each other on tv. Yet they've been married for 15 years . lol
[/STRIKE]  


 

 haha it was the first example that came to my mind.
Picked the most polarizing work place scenario. hahaha

   

Easier said than done sports.  That might work in LaLa land. Real world, not so easy.    

 yeah yeah I know, I've got to cut down on wordage. It's going to change, political science department stops grading papers after the 3rd page (750 words). I had 1,500 as of last night, now its down to 660. lol


   

 Van wrote:
Easier said than done sports.  That might work in LaLa land. Real world, not so easy.
 

I know, but it is not impossible.


 

   
 

Sportsdude wrote:
yeah yeah I know, I've got to cut down on wordage. It's going to change, political science department stops grading papers after the 3rd page (750 words). I had 1,500 as of last night, now its down to 660. lol


I don't mind wordage, SD, but politics... just doesn't do with me.  So I usually just skip over that...that's just me though.  
 

   
 

Sportsdude wrote:
Van wrote:
Easier said than done sports.  That might work in LaLa land. Real world, not so easy.



I know, but it is not impossible.
 



It is also possible I am going to win the 6/49 tonight.

  It is also possible I am going to win the 6/49 tonight.

  I just blessed you for extra good luck!

  It is also possible that Van is finally going to take us out on that movie date with his winnings. ;)[/DIV][/DIV]

   

 

Michel wrote:
*prepares his steamy glasses*

 
 Ewww...please, no details.

   
 

Yes, if I win, I will take all the DS regulars to a movie night.

  ONLY, if I get to sit between PC and purelife...on a night when Mr. Purelife and Sawdust are busy!!

lol you guys can go see a Hollywood film, Michel and I will go and see an 'indie' film. lol  

   
 

Of course! Just clean them before you get there or you won't be able to see. lol

 

Well, there's always touch and smell....

   
 

*walks back into this thread*
 
 Michel and SD are going on a movie date?
 

   
 

 if only I was on a student loan. lol

   

Michel and SD are dating ?

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Well I think it's a good thing to be up front about these issues from the start.  (//vny!://discoverseattle.net/forums/richedit/smileys/Happy/12.gif)

   

bwhaha talk about a lost in text moment. lol
 

That's GOOD....more openness.  This could work.  

   

Ahhh....sweet romance. [img style="CURSOR: pointer" onclick=url(this.src); src="vny!://www.cheesebuerger.de/images/smilie/liebe/d030.gif" border=0]

lol
Michel said I had a student loan, I said I didn't. lol you guys need some coffee.
 

   

Oh oh.....trouble in paradise already ?  [img style="CURSOR: pointer" onclick=url(this.src); src="vny!://www.cheesebuerger.de/images/more/bigs/c022.gif" border=0]

   
 

Uh huh.  The biggest pitfall in any relationship.  What a shame.  [img style="CURSOR: pointer" onclick=url(this.src); src="vny!://www.cheesebuerger.de/images/smilie/traurig/g045.gif" border=0]

     

(//vny!://img.photobucket.com/albums/v467/TMB/BluebirdNut/Emoticons/Positive/rofl2.gif)                                              .

OMG....that one really made me laugh out loud.  I'm STILL laughing.  

     

haha you guys are hilarious.
although this guy is funnier.
[a href="vny!://www.martlet.ca/article/4177-i-fell-in-love-with"]vny!://www.martlet.ca/article/4177-i-fell-in-love-with[/a]
 

haha "I fell in love with a lesbian"
You only live once, so might as well make the most of it!  

Eeeowwww...... icky thread. LOL. (//vny!://discoverseattle.net/forums/richedit/smileys/Happy/4.gif)

  And to Van, I'm not that hot. purelife is hotter and cuter, I kid you not. If you were a student, why would you wanna fool around with a married woman? OK.... unless she's so hot you worship the ground she walks on. In that case, I AM guilty.

lol, well, its good to see self esteem isn't a problem at your workplace.

What can I say, Van? It's a God-given ability to be THIS good. Ha.