Does anyone here NOT get along well with their inlaws ?
OR....do you have inlaws that you like better than your own family ?!?
I get along with everyone. My mom likes Oma more then her own family. Grandma lives with us, so my life growing up everyone liked each other. Not so with my uncle and his ex wife. Pyscho-b*** from Iowa who locked Oma in a closet for a day.
P.C. wrote:
[div style="font-style: italic;"]Does anyone here NOT get along well with their inlaws ? [/div] [div style="font-style: italic;"]OR....do you have inlaws that you like better than your own family ?!?[/div]
My previous inlaws were just horrible, horrible people...racist, backwoods goobers who hate anyone who "ain't white". They suck and I hope they all die soon. They would have been right at home in Mississippi, Georgia, or Alabama during the height of segregation. They still refer to African Americans as "colored". They disliked me because a) I read "too many" books, and b) because I was "cityfied". In short, they're totally horrid a**holes.
But my current inlaws are great and I love 'em to pieces. I say "inlaws", but Sakha's father passed away a few months ago so only Mom is left. Sakha's mom and dad welcomed me into the family and made me feel right at home. They're the salt of the Earth, and my previous inlaws aren't fit to kiss their toes.
Nice to hear you hit the lottery on that one TB. Your inlaws sound like wonderful people (so sorry for loss of Sakha's dad (//vny!://discoverseattle.net/forums/richedit/smileys/Sad/9.gif)) Your ex inlaws sound like a waste of space.....lol.....I guess you were due some good ones after THAT.
Question to SD: Don't you have to be MARRIED in order to get in-laws?? (//vny!://discoverseattle.net/forums/richedit/smileys/Teasing/4.gif)
Yes. I get along with both my parents-in-law. We didn't get along in the beginning due to cultural differences and the fact I stole mama's little boy. But now we're good, we understand each other and they've become my parents. I don't think we would have survived without their help raising our children.
I tolerate my in-laws- they're nice enough, but they have ignorance issues and hygiene issues (I've previously discussed the subject of their cutting meat on the table saw...).
Conversation with them gets old REALLY fast. They like to tell anecdotes about people they know...they've been telling the same stories for years. Mr LM and I drink heavily when the in-laws come to visit.
I tolerate my in-laws- they're nice enough, but they have ignorance issues and hygiene issues (I've previously discussed the subject of their cutting meat on the table saw...).
Conversation with them gets old REALLY fast. They like to tell anecdotes about people they know...they've been telling the same stories for years. [FONT style="BACKGROUND-COLOR: #ff9f40"]Mr LM and I drink heavily when the in-laws come to visit.[/FONT]
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Too funny Lil Me ! [/DIV]
Lise wrote:
Question to SD: Don't you have to be MARRIED in order to get in-laws?? (//vny!://discoverseattle.net/forums/richedit/smileys/Teasing/4.gif)
Yes. I get along with both my parents-in-law. We didn't get along in the beginning due to cultural differences and the fact I stole mama's little boy. But now we're good, we understand each other and they've become my parents. I don't think we would have survived without their help raising our children.
True, so I'll go by the parents of the girls I know. They love me. I get along with everybody, when I'd go over to a girl's house when I was younger to hang out with my friends, the girls parents ended up thinking the world of me. Usually the parents liked me more then my actual friends.
But I just remember how my aunt treated my Oma and it was borderline criminal. 10 years ago, she locked Oma in a closet for 8hrs, god, you don't do that to Oma. I hate that woman (my aunt). She always belittled my grandparents with the way they talked and that they came from poverty. She'd make fun of them, wouldn't eat their food, called everyone stupid, called my grandparents idiots and she couldn't stay at their house when my aunt and uncle's family were visiting. Then it went political, she always hated the whole family's left wing view of the world. She's from a rich family in Iowa, we are working class german-hungarian immigrants.
P.C. wrote:
[div style="font-style: italic;"][em] [font style="background-color: rgb(255, 159, 64);"]Mr LM and I drink heavily when the in-laws come to visit.[/font][/em][/div] [div]Too funny Lil Me !
[/div]I'll second that: too damn funny! I LOL'd.
When inlaws are outlawed, only outlaws will have inlaws.
Isn't there a show on the Life Network about In-Laws, Out-Laws or something like that. Funny to watch the mediator act like a sherrif.
SD. Point I'm trying to get across is that you have in-laws ONLY if you're married. The thread is asking about in-laws NOT ppl whom you get along with. Or anyone for that matter.
Thanks Lise.....that WAS kinda the gist of the thread.
Parents of girls you know are not your in-laws (nor is your aunt or your Oma) It's nice that they love you, but is not relevant. (there IS, however, a strong possibility that this love could change should you become an in-law) That has a tendency to happen....lol The dynamics of 'in-lawhood' are worlds apart from immediate family.
^ maybe they are just called friendlaws?
[img style="CURSOR: pointer" onclick=url(this.src); src="vny!://www.cheesebuerger.de/images/more/bigs/c008.gif" border=0] I suppose it's possible. On the other hand, it just might be redundant. [img style="CURSOR: pointer" onclick=url(this.src); src="vny!://www.cheesebuerger.de/images/more/bigs/c028.gif" border=0]
I dont have any inlaws yet.. but soon. And Starfishie and myself seem to get along pretty good with both sets.
I sometimes think that this is the way it goes.(//vny!://discoverseattle.net/forums/richedit/smileys/8.gif)
The mother of a female child often gets along well with son-in-law....but the father often thinks NOBODY is good enough for his little girl.
The mother of a male child often does NOT get along well with the wifey....nobody is good enough to take her place.....but the father often thinks son is lucky to have the younger version of who he married 20+ years ago.
I'm with Russ on this one. No in-laws yet but we get along really well. Both ways. :)
ADD: Ooops, just realized that the question is if anyone doesn't get along with their in-laws....sorry PC. I answered.
Whatever, you guys don't get it. If you can't read your parents growing up, or see how other people in the family treat your grandparents, I don't see the difference. This isn't an exclusive group in my opinion.
Sportsdude wrote:
Whatever, you guys don't get it. If you can't read your parents growing up, or see how other people in the family treat your grandparents, I don't see the difference. This isn't an exclusive group in my opinion.
That is what I was thinking reading through. Nobody on this thread made sense but sportsdude!
Uh huh!! Yep...
Sportsdude wrote:
Whatever, you guys don't get it. If you can't read your parents growing up, or see how other people in the family treat your grandparents, I don't see the difference. This isn't an exclusive group in my opinion.
Im confused?
Me too, Russ. I don't get it. It might be time to change my contact lenses.
The way you the parents react to the inlaws, your kids pick it up. Kids see everything. So when one aunt is abusive to your grandparents, you see it (if you are the grandchild) and it affects you. My cousins have no real use for my family or Oma because of how their mother (my aunt) treated us. Your relationship with the inlaws affects your kids.
I still don't get it. Gawd, I hope my prescription doesn't increase. It's bad as it is.
I understood you perfectly, SD.
Even though your relationship with your Oma and your abusive aunts have nothing to do with the question. I think most of us know that our relationships with our parents and inlaws has an affect on our children.
Ah, well that's what I was trying to say. When ever these relationship questions pop up on here, I always take the kids point of view of how they see things. Since I'm considered the silly kid on here. lol ;)
Ah, well that's what I was trying to say. When ever these relationship questions pop up on here, I always take the kids point of view of how they see things. Since I'm considered the silly kid on here. lol ;)
And they were good observations......to a different question. (//vny!://discoverseattle.net/forums/richedit/smileys/Happy/12.gif)
Never got a chance to meet them.I wish I did, they sound like interesting people.
There are...um...consultants who could arrange such a meeting...check the New Age classifieds...lol
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The guru might help.......
With winning lottery numbers perhaps???