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Title: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: stretchedout on Apr 30 08 08:10
Is that a bit much for a daughter in her 40s?  Every day in the evening at dinner time or right after.
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: Sportsdude on Apr 30 08 08:57
depends.  
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: P.C. on Apr 30 08 10:33
My thoughts are, that if it's not bothering the person getting the calls....then it shouldn't bother anyone else ?  (personally, it would be too much for me....but I hate talking on the phone) (//vny!://discoverseattle.net/forums/richedit/smileys/Happy/12.gif)
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: Lil Me on May 01 08 12:10
If you don't want to answer the phone, let  her do it.  
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: Sportsdude on May 01 08 01:12
I my mother calls me 3 times a day at least, I call her just as much. If a girl in my life can't understand that, well then that's her loss (so far they think its funny and join in the conversations). I doubt this is a mother worrying about her daughter. Maybe they just like talking on the phone? They've got a good relationship who knows.  
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: van_guy on May 01 08 06:37
 stretchedout wrote:
Is that a bit much for a daughter in her 40s?  Every day in the evening at dinner time or right after.
Once a day is OK - if it were any more than that I'd have a canary.  Caller ID is AMAZing


 
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: Van on May 01 08 06:53
That seems like a lot to me too. I talk to my mom usually once a week on Sundays. But we email and stuff too.

Every person is different though. I wouldn't be worry about it too much.
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: P.C. on May 01 08 07:18
3 times a day at least ????  [img style="CURSOR: pointer" onclick=url(this.src); src="vny!://www.cheesebuerger.de/images/more/bigs/a093.gif" border=0]  Yipes !
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: Van on May 01 08 07:20
I sometimes have 3 bowel movements a day...
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: P.C. on May 01 08 07:21
[img style="CURSOR: pointer" onclick=url(this.src); src="vny!://www.cheesebuerger.de/images/more/bigs/c008.gif" border=0]  Somehow that seems....healthier.  
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: van_guy on May 01 08 07:23
 Van wrote:
I sometimes have 3 bowel movements a day... [img style="cursor: pointer;" onclick="url(this.src);" src="vny!://www.cheesebuerger.de/images/more/bigs/a093.gif[/img]  Yipes !

thanks for sharing though

 
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: van_guy on May 01 08 07:26
 Sportsdude wrote:
I my mother calls me 3 times a day at least, I call her just as much. If a girl in my life can't understand that, well then that's her loss (so far they think its funny and join in the conversations). I doubt this is a mother worrying about her daughter. Maybe they just like talking on the phone? They've got a good relationship who knows.  

So  she calls you 3 times and you call her 3 times?  That's 6 calls per day ... that's one call for every three hours that you are awake.  What can possibly happen every three hours that you need to discuss??  Well in case of Van a good BM.
 
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: Van on May 01 08 07:31
Foods high in fibre are your friends!!!    
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: van_guy on May 01 08 07:33
 Van wrote:
Foods high in fibre are your friends!!!

3 a day - i think only rope is that high in fibre.(//forums/richedit/smileys/Shocked/1.gif)

 

 
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: Van on May 01 08 07:43
LOL...sometimes 3..not everyday.

  If I talked to my mom three times a week I am not sure what I would say, nevermind 3 times a day?

  "Hi Mom! You know those clouds that I was talking about that were approaching over the mountains...well, yes they are here now..."
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: P.C. on May 01 08 07:45
One of the Van's wrote: What can possibly happen every three hours that you need to discuss??  Well in case of Van a good BM.

  I think this sums up the 'daily phone calls from mom'. I think both situations require a little change in diet.  Van....I recommend a piece of cheese be incorporated into your daily diet.  SD...I recommend cutting down on milk.  
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: van_guy on May 01 08 07:50
  Van wrote:
LOL...sometimes 3..not everyday.
 
If I talked to my mom three times a week I am not sure what I would say, nevermind 3 times a day?
 
"Hi Mom! You know those clouds that I was talking about that were approaching over the mountains...well, yes they are here now..."

Well like PC said it's good for the health - if you ever read anything about men's bowels - well they are a mess - so good for you.
Yeah i talk to my mom once every couple of months ... we chat for ten minutes ... love her to death - but not much in common .... her 65 year old retired woman born and raised in a small town ... me much younger - adrenalin junky - work 42 day weeks in SE Asia.

 
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: van_guy on May 01 08 07:54
 P.C. wrote:

 I think this sums up the 'daily phone calls from mom'. I think both situations require a little change in diet.  Van....I recommend a piece of cheese be incorporated into your daily diet.  SD...I recommend cutting down on milk.

PC ??  are you suggesting SD stop drinking mother's milk???  catty


 
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: P.C. on May 01 08 07:55
42 day weeks ?  YOU need to learn how to RELAX !!!!!!!  [img style="CURSOR: pointer" onclick=url(this.src); src="vny!://www.cheesebuerger.de/images/more/bigs/a070.gif" border=0]      
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: P.C. on May 01 08 07:57
PC ??  are you suggesting SD stop drinking mother's milk???  catty


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Meow.

  (//vny!://discoverseattle.net/forums/richedit/smileys/Happy/12.gif)  
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: van_guy on May 01 08 07:59
 P.C. wrote:
42 day weeks ?  YOU need to learn how to RELAX !!!!!!!  [img style="cursor: pointer;" onclick="url(this.src);" src="vny!://www.cheesebuerger.de/images/more/bigs/a070.gif[/img]

6 weeks x 7 days a week = 42 days in my week, of course my weekend is two weeks long.

 
 

 
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: stretchedout on May 01 08 08:02
She called again this morning well before 8am, while we were in bed.  Oh well, so much for "morning love".  If it ain't the dog it is phone calls!!!

  Re. 3 bowel movements a day, I say right on bro!  You're digestive system is efficient.  I've had mine so efficient that I've eliminated the previous meal prior to the next.  I suggest a 20 day herbal supplement which one takes prior to each meal.  And of course, fruit for breakfast, veggies and fish for lunch and brown rice or potato, high volume meat (poultry breasts or deep sea fish) and veggies for dinner.  Flax seed oil with the veggies to help lube it all - but if cooking veggies only put the oil on after the grub is on your plate.  PAW (peacans, almonds and walnuts) in small portions if hungry inbetween meals.

  Cheese is garbage to the human body, as is all dairy.  There are way better sources of protein, calcium, fat and sodium out there.  And John Hopkins confirms that dairy supports the growth of cancer cells - mucous forming, yikes!    
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: P.C. on May 01 08 08:03
According to that math, it sounds like your weekend is 14 weeks.....lol  [img style="CURSOR: pointer" onclick=url(this.src); src="vny!://www.cheesebuerger.de/images/more/bigs/c028.gif" border=0]  
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: stretchedout on May 01 08 08:06
P.C. wrote:
 3 times a day at least ????  [img style="CURSOR: pointer" onclick=url(this.src); src="vny!://www.cheesebuerger.de/images/more/bigs/a093.gif" border=0]  Yipes !

  PC, you look constipated - is that your face when you're on the potty?
   
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: stretchedout on May 01 08 08:10
Sportsdude wrote:
I my mother calls me 3 times a day at least, I call her just as much. If a girl in my life can't understand that, well then that's her loss (so far they think its funny and join in the conversations). I doubt this is a mother worrying about her daughter. Maybe they just like talking on the phone? They've got a good relationship who knows.  

 -------------------

 "They", meaning there is a huge turnover?  Perhaps they are laughing at you before they leave?
No man should talk to his Mother six times per day unless she is dying.  Hope that ain't the case, but heck, 155,000 people die everyday so eventually it is your turn.

 
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: P.C. on May 01 08 08:10
Good Gawwwd....don't tell him to eat flax oil.  We'll never see him.

  So....you didn't mention if these frequent calls bother your wife.      
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: P.C. on May 01 08 08:14
PC, you look constipated - is that your face when you're on the potty?

  I'm not sure.  I often forget to bring a mirror.
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: Van on May 01 08 08:14
stretchedout wrote:
She called again this morning well before 8am, while we were in bed.  Oh well, so much for "morning love".  If it ain't the dog it is phone calls!!!



Re. 3 bowel movements a day, I say right on bro!  You're digestive system is efficient.  I've had mine so efficient that I've eliminated the previous meal prior to the next.  I suggest a 20 day herbal supplement which one takes prior to each meal.  And of course, fruit for breakfast, veggies and fish for lunch and brown rice or potato, high volume meat (poultry breasts or deep sea fish) and veggies for dinner.  Flax seed oil with the veggies to help lube it all - but if cooking veggies only put the oil on after the grub is on your plate.  PAW (peacans, almonds and walnuts) in small portions if hungry inbetween meals.



Cheese is garbage to the human body, as is all dairy.  There are way better sources of protein, calcium, fat and sodium out there.  And John Hopkins confirms that dairy supports the growth of cancer cells - mucous forming, yikes!

   
 Wow! You know your healthy eating!

I actually don't always have 3. It was more a comment on the 3 phone calls. Yes, sometimes 3...probably should not talk about that anymore.

Cheese is practically a junk food, but so yummy! Small doses, it is great.

I like flax in my bread. I heard if you use a grinder to grind the seeds, your body appreciates it all the more.  
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: stretchedout on May 01 08 08:15
Sometimes the wife says after the calls that she has no idea what her Mother said.  
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: P.C. on May 01 08 08:19
I can imagine daily calls would put one into 'robo' mode.  Would she ever ask her to not call so often?
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: Van on May 01 08 08:29
talking to your mom 6 times a day total if she calls 3 times too??

  I guess she is a long ways away in the US midwest..still? I think bowel movements would be the only topic of conversation since there probably isn't much else you could get done in between?
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: stretchedout on May 01 08 08:32
P.C. wrote:
 I can imagine daily calls would put one into 'robo' mode.  Would she ever ask her to not call so often?  

 nope


 
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: P.C. on May 01 08 08:37
Does it bother her ? .......or is it just annoying for you.
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: purelife on May 01 08 08:40
Woah, BM's and phone calls... interesting.

  That sounds like a very balanced meal planning you have there stretched.

  I rarely call my mom.  I'd only call to say "Mom - I'm coming over for dinner tonight, k?!"  It's not really a question, it's more of "I'm showing up no matter what!!"  LOL

  I prefer to visit her instead and talk then.

  Mr PL doesn't call his mom all that often too.  Maybe 3 times a month or so.  
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: stretchedout on May 01 08 08:41
P.C. wrote:
 Does it bother her ? .......or is it just annoying for you.

  -------------------------

  Both, especially when it is always at dinner time.  As a couple you only have a couple of hours together per day.  And when friends call and Mothers, there is only minutes per day.  I turned off the tv yesterday so we could talk before phone calls dominated the evening.  It is true what they say - married men are more lonely than single men.    
     
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: P.C. on May 01 08 08:45
I would definitely take it up with her.  There has to be a kind and gentle way of doing it.  I think I would just unplug the phone between 5 and 8....or..whenever 'couple time' is.  
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: stretchedout on May 01 08 08:48
P.C. wrote:
 I would definitely take it up with her.  There has to be a kind and gentle way of doing it.  I think I would just unplug the phone between 5 and 8....or..whenever 'couple time' is.   -------------------------------

 I've unplugged the phone, but only when my lady is sleeping.


 
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: purelife on May 01 08 08:52
Introduce her to emails and snail mail. ;)

  So that you two could get some...

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Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: stretchedout on May 01 08 08:54
purelife wrote:
 Introduce her to emails and snail mail. ;)

  So that you two could get some...

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 E-mails from the mum can't happen if the dad is always on the computer.  Oh, and he's convinced her to not drive anymore.  But she used to take the one hour drive to see us.  
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: Van on May 01 08 09:04
Just a note. Having my mom use emails these days are a mixed blessing.

Sure, it is easy to keep in touch...but some of the jokes she sends are horrible!
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: Sportsdude on May 01 08 11:43
She calls everyday. I only call when I'm bored or I've driven somewhere cool or saw something interesting (life in the midwest is pretty boring), but half the time she never has her phone with her so it's sort of a lost cause. So it depends some days its more then others.

Its basically a habit now, due to the begining of the year she'd call me all the time which got annoying.
 
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: It'sAllAboutSD on May 01 08 01:53
(//vny!://guardian.spreadshirt.co.uk/imagescartoons/appleby1.jpg).  
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: Lise on May 01 08 04:06
If she has a good relationship with her mother, I don't see what's the big deal. Personally I would love it if my girls would call me that much in a day just to talk to me. I don't think it would happen as they'll have their own lives to live but I can always wish.

  I call my parents at least 3 to 4 times a week and we always go online. I find it's a great time to re-connect and catch up.
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: Lil Me on May 01 08 07:09
I have no problem with frequent phone calls from anyone (including my mother!) if the caller has SOMETHING TO SAY.  It bugs me to no end when peeps just call "to chat".
 
 My mother calls me probably every other day, which is too frequently in my mind--as she wants to chat and find out "what's going on". I either don't answer the phone or I keep the conversation as brief as possible.
 
 If I'm going to phone someone, there is a reason for the call (ie a question, a congratulation, a Happy BDay, a let's meet for dinner...) not an openended blather session.
   
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: purelife on May 01 08 08:49
Lil Me wrote:
I have no problem with frequent phone calls from anyone (including my mother!) if the caller has SOMETHING TO SAY.  It bugs me to no end when peeps just call "to chat".
 
If I'm going to phone someone, there is a reason for the call (ie a question, a congratulation, a Happy BDay, a let's meet for dinner...) not an openended blather session.
[hr style="width: 100%; height: 2px;"]I guess you prefer to chit chat in person then?
   
 
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: P.C. on May 01 08 09:10
I have no problem with frequent phone calls from anyone (including my mother!) if the caller has SOMETHING TO SAY.

  Hahahahaaaa.  I hear ya.  I have a friend who calls, and I have to COAX a conversation in around all the dead air.  Drives me nuts.  Sometimes I have to remind her that she called me.  Yet in person, the chit chat flows easy.  
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: Van on May 02 08 02:42
Oh for sure! Everyone who loves their parents should be happy to hear their voice. There comes a day when you won't have that option. It is nice to have stuff to talk about to besides the weather.
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: purelife on May 02 08 02:49
Wait till your mother becomes a grandparent!
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: Van on May 02 08 03:01
Yes, I guess once you have kids, you would never run out of stuff to chat about.  
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: Lise on May 02 08 07:35
Hey, life is too short. I love a call from my mamma or papa anytime. It doesn't have to be a reason. It's one of those things that remind me that they still love and care about me.
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: Lil Me on May 02 08 07:53
 Lise wrote:
Hey, life is too short. I love a call from my mamma or papa anytime. It doesn't have to be a reason.
 --
 
 Let me give my mother your phone number!  She can phone you and ask you for your daily update.
 
 
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: zen monk on May 02 08 08:08
[h1 style="margin: 0pt; font-size: 12px;"][font style="font-family: Arial Narrow;" size="3"][span style="font-weight: normal;"]"When my dad divorced my mom it was kind of like him leaving me also. I just really didn't understand why he wasn't returning my phone calls, or why I couldn't see him whenever I wanted to. That was the most hurtful thing to me." - Nicole Richie[/span][/font]
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Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: P.C. on May 02 08 08:14
 Hey, life is too short. I love a call from my mamma or papa anytime. It doesn't have to be a reason. It's one of those things that remind me that they still love and care about me.

  That's true Lise.....any time is good....but every day?  I can see that wearing thin real quick.  Having said that, I wished I had called my mom more when she was here.  Then again having said THAT....I just can't imagine talking on the phone every day to anyone.[/DIV]
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: P.C. on May 02 08 08:15
Let me give my mother your phone number!  She can phone you and ask you for your daily update.


 

LOL  
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: Lil Me on May 02 08 08:17
 Back to the original post by stretchedout...
 
  I think one's relationship with one's spouse needs to come first.  stretchedout is bugged by the amount of time his wife spends talking to her mother each night, and that is as issue that they should address.
 
 Stretchedout...keep us posted on this, will ya?
 
   
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: Sportsdude on May 02 08 09:07
99.8% of my calls are pointless (except when this one friend wants to do something). Last night, my cousin calls, its 1:30am his time, he's bored out in the fields plowing away and is the only one out working as well, so he calls just because. lol

I actually like the pointless calls.

 
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: stretchedout on May 02 08 09:41
Lil Me wrote:
Back to the original post by stretchedout...
 
  I think one's relationship with one's spouse needs to come first.  stretchedout is bugged by the amount of time his wife spends talking to her mother each night, and that is as issue that they should address.

Stretchedout...keep us posted on this, will ya?


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 It is more about the frequency than the amount of time.  Sometimes the calls are brief, like when we have just sat down to eat.  But other times, like in the mornings lately, they are too long, causing the wife to not walk the dog, not eat breakfast and not have time to get a lunch together!

 Now I'm thinking about the poor saps I see all the time walking with a chick who is talking on the phone.  Rule number one when with your boyfriend girls, TURN OFF YOUR GODDAMNED CELL PHONE!  How is it these guys put up with it?
   


   
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: van_guy on May 03 08 05:01
It is more about the frequency than the amount of time.  Sometimes the calls are brief, like when we have just sat down to eat.  But other times, like in the mornings lately, they are too long, causing the wife to not walk the dog, not eat breakfast and not have time to get a lunch together! Now I'm thinking about the poor saps I see all the time walking with a chick who is talking on the phone.  Rule number one when with your boyfriend girls, TURN OFF YOUR GODDAMNED CELL PHONE!  How is it these guys put up with it?[/p]
[/p]Crikey.  Stretchedout is sounding stretchedthin ... I'm hoping you have voiced this to your lovely wife in these terms.  I'm feeling a bit better about my nosey once in the monrning MILaw calls.

Amen to the cell phone thing.  I think cell phones are changing our society ... and not for the better.  I used to have to pack one for work - I remember the sense of calm and deep satisfaction I had when I was somewhere out of cell phone range.


 
Title: Re: Daily phone calls from Mother-in-law
Post by: stretchedout on May 03 08 09:10
And now all these people with blackberrys(ies?).  Talk about a major electronic leash.  If you have a blackberry everybody, and I mean EVERYBODY!  expects you to return e-mails, texts or calls RIGHT AWAY.  Phuckit, I'm sticking to a cell and starting to turn it off except when I'm expecting a call or away from the wife!  YIKES, I have an electronic leash too.  That's okay, people don't expect me to answer it; I have them trained.  I've started another thread about the cell phone issue.