Was there a defining moment for you?
I've been thinking about this a lot lately.
*sniff*
[span style="text-decoration: underline;"]Mine is occurring now because my parents have sold their house. [/span]They are looking for a condo, but don't have one yet.
I was storing a ton of stuff in their basement (our current home is very small).
I was receiving mail and packages at their address (more secure than mine).
We used to come over and stay every time we had an "emergency" (power failure, plumbing problem) or renos.
We moved in for a bit 10yrs ago when we had financial problems.
None of these things are a big deal, but it's an emotional idea...Mom and Dad's House was my safety net.
age 17 the day i threw my mum against a wall, packed all my shit and moved out. grew up hard and fast.
You've had quite a journey, Mr Orik. Welcome back to DS, my friend.
I think we don't grow up we just have "life events". lol
2 years ago went on a flight to Seattle by myself was gone for a week.
Then of course this year. That was pretty huge.
awwwww...hugz Lil Me. I feel your pain....
My parents' home are my safety net too and I can't imagine where I'd be if they ever decided to downsize.
I'm like you, I've lived there for a long period of time. I go there when I need a place to sleep, in case of emergency and just to get away. I have ALL my mail sent there because I prefer it that way (for security and credit rating purposes).
Hi Orik. I haven't seen you around in a long time. *hugz*
Havent grown up.
Bought my parents house with my brother.
wow, you guys haven't really grown up in a way. (which is cool)
You never really "flew the coop" as they say. lol
I don't think I could live in one place my entire life, would just feel weird.
I guess it would be.... the moment we left for Australia. We were in high school and had to stay with our aunt. My parents would stay in M'sia for the next one year so we were pretty much on our own. I had to learn how to become a parent to my two younger sisters. It was damn hard but it taught me a lot and the value of family.
I moved out at 18, went to university in a different city, got a job I liked afterwards, quit that job to be my own boss, bought my own home. So I guess I am kind of a responsible adult.
But I refuse to grow up!(//vny!://discoverseattle.net/forums/richedit/smileys/Happy/9.gif) Life is too short.
I moved out at 18 as well. However that did little for me in the growing up department. Long way to go at that point, coming from a super strict upbringing that did little to prepare us for the 'outside world'. I'm still not certain I'm grown up. As a dear friend of mine puts it....I'm getting older, but fortunately I've managed to stay immature. (//vny!://discoverseattle.net/forums/richedit/smileys/Happy/12.gif)
I guess one of the turning points when I realized I was growing up, was when I discovered I cared more about someone elses life than my own. Children do that.
I was forced to grow up. I wanna "grow back down" :)
My mom says I have become more of a fun loving kid as I got older. I think I have become more free.
Russ wrote:
Havent grown up.
Bought my parents house with my brother.[/DIV]
What I meant to say is that my brother and I got together and bought our parents house. I didnt use my brother as barter to buy my parents house. The person that sent me an email about that will remain nameless.
I have grown up in a way.. since Ive been 19 ive been living away from home for about half a year each year. But I still wont give up being immature!
Haven't grown up and don't intend to.
hi purelife (//forums/richedit/smileys/12.gif) to u madam. it is nice to see u again. is been forever since we last had a chat. i've missed u all . but only a little.
hi again russ lil me and pc blessings to you all and then some (//forums/richedit/smileys/Love/2.gif)
lil me, my life wasn't hard. it was shit. mind is my own fault, i didn't have to start drinking or using drugs at 14. i didnt have to get involved with the wrong crowd, but like the idiot i am, i did. of course i regret some of the things i have done, but what is past, is just that. the past is oft best buried and forgotten like numerous bodies which shall never be found. God bless lye hehe(//forums/richedit/smileys/9.gif)
Greetings back atcha Orik. [img style="CURSOR: pointer" onclick=url(this.src); src="vny!://www.cheesebuerger.de/images/smilie/froehlich/a010.gif" border=0]
Frankly, being grown up is over-rated. You spend your youth craving to be able to do what you want, when you want....and you're positive it will be the answer to all your problems. Trouble is, by the time you can afford to do that, it's loaded down with responsibility. Bugga !
Gopher wrote:
Haven't grown up and don't intend to.
hahaha!!!
that's a great attitude.
It's the only one!
Maybe we should all return to the womb!
Lise wrote:
Maybe we should all return to the womb!
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I'm all for a womb-like environment, but I don't want to be stuck with my mother 24/7, nor do I want to hear her voice continually.
Trust me....immaturity is a good substitute. [img style="CURSOR: pointer" onclick=url(this.src); src="vny!://www.cheesebuerger.de/images/more/bigs/c019.gif" border=0]
(//vny!://www.diplomastore.com/images/silly-state.jpg).
Oh thanks Lil Me....but I already have one of those. [img style="CURSOR: pointer" onclick=url(this.src); src="vny!://www.cheesebuerger.de/images/smilie/frech/h040.gif" border=0]
I grow up when my mother died suddenly when I was 21. Nothing changed my life as much not having children or getting married.
When I was sent to prison at the age of 21. A very tough experience. I went from screwing around with no direction in life, partying, etc. to a complete survival mode mindset. I had to grow up fast, or at least, take things a lot more seriously. When I got out several years later on parole, I was a completely different person. I had no intention of ever going back, so settled into a job and stable existence. Not an easy journey, but lots of good lessons along the way.
Lil Me wrote:
Was there a defining moment for you?
I've been thinking about this a lot lately.
*sniff*
[span style="text-decoration: underline;"]Mine is occurring now because my parents have sold their house. [/span]They are looking for a condo, but don't have one yet.
Wow - so getting married - having children - being pretty much a single mom ... nuthin'
your parents being sorta - kinda - maybe - without a home for maybe a month - causes you to "Grow up"
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I'm all for a womb-like environment, but I don't want to be stuck with my mother 24/7, [span style="background-color: rgb(255, 255, 0);"]nor do I want to hear her voice continually[/span].
I'm going to have nightmares tonight!!!
van_guy wrote:
Wow - so getting married - having children - being pretty much a single mom ... nuthin'
your parents being sorta - kinda - maybe - without a home for maybe a month - causes you to "Grow up"
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It's a weird emotional thing.
It's easy to live from day-to-day as an adult. Doesn't mean you are truly "grown up".
It's a weird emotional thing.
It's easy to live from day-to-day as an adult. Doesn't mean you are truly "grown up".
Hmmmm weird - it must be some kind of emotional thing that i don't understand (//forums/richedit/smileys/8.gif)
I think I get it....having the home that you grew up in, become no longer available.....removes some sense of security. I don't think it makes you act different...but it does close the door on one more connection with your childhood.
My dad had still remained in our childhood home right up until he died....and it was the weirdest feeling ever to return to where our home should be, only to see a new house there. Even our address was gone.
P.C. wrote:
I think I get it....having the home that you grew up in, become no longer available.....removes some sense of security. I don't think it makes you act different...but it does close the door on one more connection with your childhood.
My dad had still remained in our childhood home right up until he died....and it was the weirdest feeling ever to return to where our home should be, only to see a new house there. Even our address was gone.
meeeeep - nope it wasn't the home she was brought up in ... that I could understand as well . Her folks moved in when she was a teen.
Wow - I can relate to that a bit - the home i grew up in from age 3 to 17 was remodelled after my folks moved out. It was very weird to see it painted etc...
Well now. I see your point.
The home that stands where 'our' house was, is at least 4 times the size. Not only that, they totally reshaped the front yard. What was once a gentle slope from the front door to the city sidewalk, connected by a curving path....is now a small level front yard with a 3 foot concrete retaining wall. And our house numbers have disappeared off the map. It's just not right. (//vny!://discoverseattle.net/forums/richedit/smileys/Sad/11.gif)
P.C. wrote:
Well now. I see your point.
The home that stands where 'our' house was, is at least 4 times the size. Not only that, they totally reshaped the front yard. What was once a gentle slope from the front door to the city sidewalk, connected by a curving path....is now a small level front yard with a 3 foot concrete retaining wall. And our house numbers have disappeared off the map. It's just not right. (//vny!://discoverseattle.net/forums/richedit/smileys/Sad/11.gif)
DAMN THEM DAMN THEM TO HELLLLLLLL (//forums/richedit/smileys/Angry/7.gif)
How dare they take the address of the map??!
Somewhat offtopic...(I've never admitted this before)...I dialled my grandparents' "old" phone number for years to see who answered. I was hoping it would be my dead grandfather. Sounds crazy, but I was a kid. It made sense at the time.
Lil Me wrote:
Somewhat offtopic...(I've never admitted this before)...I dialled my grandparents' "old" phone number for years to see who answered. I was hoping it would be my dead grandfather. Sounds crazy, but I was a kid. It made sense at the time.
That's kinda creepy - what would you have done if he answered????
Maybe tell him to cancel his phone number in writing ?
I visited my old neighborhood a few years ago with MrPL to show him where I lived. I found it to be a great visual stimuli to bring back memories... to see the park, the school, the neighboring homes....
I haven't been back since and probably don't plan to see it for another couple of years, maybe with my children.
I also keep track of memories by thinking about the places I have lived. And with every home that I move into, a part of me grows up, just a bit.
Awww....does have a bit of a melancholy tone, doesn't it Michel.
There are places I remember
all my life, though some have changed.
Some forever, not for better.
And some have gone, and some remain.
purelife wrote: I also keep track of memories by thinking about the places I have lived.
That's how I keep track as well purelife. I've got memories....but they're scattered and disjointed. By associating things to where I was sometimes helps. (sometimes not)