..... without attracting scumbags or giving the wrong signals?
Not that I do it, of course. *cough cough* Is being friendly to the opposite sex giving off the wrong signal?
I was.... thinking the other day, this guy started talking to me. I mean, I initiated being friendly with him because I'm just that type of person. I like saying 'hi' and 'how are you' to everyone I met. Or smile. I asked this dude about his day and how he liked being here. Innocent right?
On Tues he waited for everyone to go then approached me to talk about Easter and what not. I just KNEW he was interested in me. You can see it. It's so damn sweet and lovely but I felt so bad. Like I haven't said anything so I kinda had to let him off gently.
I talked about my kids.
Then I saw his face fell. OMG. [FONT size=1]I feel so so so so bad and small[/FONT]. He excused himself, beat a hasty retreat. He was so sweet and gentle that it made re-think that perhaps I must have been flirting too much??? Perhaps there's a consequence to one's actions afterall?? But how can being friendly and asking about your day and so forth be considered flirting? *confused*
Maybe next time I should just shaddap and not talk. *puts band-aid on mouth*
Lise - I don't think you did anything wrong. You're one hawt gal, Lise and your friendly attention to this guy just melted his heart. This guy just took it the wrong way because he was actually out there looking for a girl who responded to him. You bad girl, you weren't wearing your ring, heh? ;) hee hee... (j/k)
i don't see why you should punish yourself socially because you're married. I've don't get the idea of that because you're married you can't have a social life. lol
drop in a line or two about the new family car or something.
Working towards a promotion Lise ?(//vny!://discoverseattle.net/forums/richedit/smileys/Happy/12.gif)
Aw Lise. Not your fault...you were just being friendly.
This has happened to me on more than one occasion...I have no problem with talking to people....but I'm not a girly person, neither am I "flirty". But I don't normally wear a wedding ring...jewelry doesn't mesh with active lifestyle, so I leave it at home unless I'm going out for dinner.
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OK....now I've read more carefully (shame on me)......I can't imagine that you could think you did anything wrong. Don't change what you do.....there isn't enough 'friendly' around.
You ladies are funny.
I know what you mean about not wearing rings, LM. I often take it out if I'm out there doing something physical but forget sometimes. I'm not really a ring person anyhow.
ok...back to original question of how to flirt.
If I was single, I would be smiling to all the guys who look my way. That's the first thing I would do along with staring deep into their eyes. When our eyes meet, I smile and if he does, he knows.
I would say that if anyone is confused, Lise.....it would be the poor fellow who mistook friendly conversation for flirting. Take that bandaid off your mouth....and keep being friendly.
Dont worry about it Lise.. You are a very likable person, he probably couldnt believe his luck thinking you were single until you mentioned your new family car..
Best way to do it. How do I know this?
I get the same thing when Im home. I get it alot to be honest.. and I dont have a ring, yet.
I get the same thing when Im home. I get it alot to be honest.. and I dont have a ring, yet.
[/DIV]Does it make you feel good that someone out there finds you attractive?
For me, there is a smile, and then there is a SMILE! That is all there needs to be from a girl to know she is flirting or just being friendly. You just know. If there is any doubt of a mixed signal, then approach carefully!
Van wrote:
For me, there is a smile, and then there is a SMILE! That is all there needs to be from a girl to know she is flirting or just being friendly. You just know. If there is any doubt of a mixed signal, then approach carefully!
Van's the Tiger ready to pounce on his Tigress. Hear him ROAR!
purelife wrote:
Van's the Tiger ready to pounce on his Tigress. Hear him ROAR!
LOL!!(//vny!://discoverseattle.net/forums/richedit/smileys/Love/8.gif)
purelife wrote:
Does it make you feel good that someone out there finds you attractive?
Starfish? Of course Im happy that we are attracted to each other.. Er, is that your question?
LOL, You are on your own there Tiger.
Lise wrote:
Perhaps there's a consequence to one's actions afterall??
OMG, say it isn't so!!!!! (//forums/richedit/smileys/Happy/14.gif) lol
yes good point Michel! You married ladies (or guys), wear your rings if you are in a social environment.
Good point indeed. It gives the heads up to the opposite sex that you're not green.... unless you were looking for a quick "bam wam thank you ma'am?" LOL
Hey baby, betcha can't tell by looking at me that I can do the robot.
I think cupid struck me. ;)
Speaking of getting a room, I saw something on the news where there's this hotel that rents out rooms for only 2 hours. It's in Vancouver somewhere...by kits? I can't remember where.
Meet Van? ;)
Before you know it, we'll have a Red Light District. Or, do we already? LOL
lol! Umm..wow! so if I don't actually look at the ring on your finger, its not really there then right?
purelife wrote:
Before you know it, we'll have a Red Light District. Or, do we already? LOL
they've been talking about it for years, Mr. Da Vinci wanted one (Larry Campbell) Sullivan mused about it but of course has done nothing. It'll happen eventually, it'll cut down on street crime.
ROTFL. OMG. You guys just make me laugh.
As for the ring, no.... I don't wear one at work simple for hygienic reason. I have to deal with gloves and things that need to be sterilized. If I wore my ring, it might go missing when I take off the gloves.
So you mean to say that if you just smile at a guy, he thinks he wants you already? Aw man, I gotta pout more often. (//vny!://discoverseattle.net/forums/richedit/smileys/Happy/13.gif)
I don't know, maybe I'm just jumping to conclusions here. Nah... maybe I AM HOT. Hehe. Hey, isn't this supposed to make feel good? Instead I'm just a bit anxious about the whole thing. I don't really want to hurt him any more. He's like a puppy for crying out loud.
And no, going out with him won't get me promoted. In fact, it might just get me fired. Trust me. LOL.
I'm just wondering if he will still talk to me. Well, at least he knows now and we'll just keep it that way. I'll just file this experience into the Lise's Silly Things That Happen To Her and move on.
I will think on wearing the ring... though if I loose one, I expect you to replace it since you asked me wear it. (//vny!://discoverseattle.net/forums/richedit/smileys/Happy/4.gif)
Some guys don't care if the girl is wearing a ring. That's probably not a good thing.
I remember these types of topics were VERY popular on DV.
Next, we need a topic about why white guys are with the asian girls....and why asian girls prefer white guys.
purelife wrote:
Some guys don't care if the girl is wearing a ring. That's probably not a good thing.
Oh yes!!! It's soooooooo true!!! This guy at work is soooo creepy. Extra yucky slime kinda thing. Like he tells dirty jokes all the time. Make inappropriate remarks. I tend to stay away from him whenever I can.
He's married and all but his wife is not well. I don't know why he's doing this at work. Not like I encourage him but some of the ladies seem to like him.
There's this other guy that tried to give me a shoulder massage. I'm like... no, no, I'm OK, I'm OK. Let's move on. C'mon already!!! Don't be touching me for crying out loud. I don't like being touched especially at work. (and unless you're damn cute)
purelife wrote:
I remember these types of topics were VERY popular on DV.
Next, we need a topic about why white guys are with the asian girls....and why asian girls prefer white guys.
Haha. Yes, I remember that one. So funny. Why not start one, Ms. purelife?
[em]Next, we need a topic about why white guys are with the asian girls....and why asian girls prefer white guys.[/em]
lol
And I won't say a word, or 49er will get pissed with me again.
Lil Me wrote:
lol
And I won't say a word, or 49er will get pissed with me again.
I miss something here! TELL ME! I gotta know!
I made some comments that he found offensive.
Lise wrote:
There's this other guy that tried to give me a shoulder massage. I'm like... no, no, I'm OK, I'm OK. Let's move on. C'mon already!!! Don't be touching me for crying out loud. I don't like being touched especially at work. (and unless you're damn cute)[/DIV]
That is uncalled for. If he does it again, I would get your human resource dept. involved (or whatever is equal at your work), and charge the prick. No touching should be done without an ok first, and not at work. That is unprofessional and deserves some kind stern kick in the ars.
I agree with the consensus.. that if a guy/girl see's a wedding ring and CONTINUES advances.. then theres something wrong there.
LOL! I remember the white guy/asian girl threads. Didnt want to get involved as there seems to be a conflict of interest there, ha!
I agree with you Lise on teh wedding ring for work/hygiene reasons. With my work I cant wear any metal on my fingers, arms (watch), or necklaces. I dont have a ring yet but when I do I will be leaving it at home and not travelling with it. I think you did the right thing by mentioning the 'family car' or just drop hints about your daughter/son.
It wouldn't be right if the girl or guy, who is in a relationship, not to mention that he/she is in one. If it goes too far, I mention it for sure or do the yawn trick that Michel suggested.
That makes sense about the ring for your line of work, Russ considering you import and export fragile goods... (//vny!://discoverseattle.net/forums/richedit/smileys/Teasing/4.gif)
Lil Me wrote:
I made some comments that he found offensive.
Now I'm curious because I can't imagine you offending anyone and 49er getting offended.
If I posted the topic, I might flame myself.
hmm i remember vaguely the white guy asian thing popping up here, but I don't think it was a topic.
Lil Me wrote:
Next, we need a topic about why white guys are with the asian girls....and why asian girls prefer white guys.
lol
And I won't say a word, or 49er will get pissed with me again.
I don't have a problem w/ interracial marriages......I've relatives and friends who are happily married to partners outside their own race........they couldn't have picked better partners.
My problem is with females dissing males of their own race because of bad experiences or to justify their choice of partners outside their race.
.....its similar to you guys chastising Sportsdude when he referred to one of his professors by race a few days ago...so if one finds someone compatible from another race why bring the race issue into it or need to knock own race.
49er wrote:
My problem is with females dissing males of their own race because of bad experiences or to justify their choice of partners outside their race.
.....its similar to you guys chastising Sportsdude when he referred to one of his professors by race a few days ago...so if one finds someone compatible from another race why bring the race issue into it or need to knock own race.
I've never known anyone who would dissed males from their own culture to justify marrying outside. That's kinda shallow. If anything it would be a personality issue.
Oh.... ouch to that SD comment.