Someone recently asked me if I would know the signs of a guy cheating. I.... well, I'm not sure if I would know.
I bet if he was cheating he would probably:
a) leave the house at different hours of the day and not come back till very, very late
b) constantly talking about a certain someone ALL THE TIME and comparing her to you
c) don't seem really interested in doing stuff with you
This friend says her brother is cheating on not one but 3 different girls in different countries! Can you believe that?
What do you think are obvious signs? This goes for girls too, y'know. It's a two-way street.
The guy constantly turns you down for sex.
Communication is lost. He doesn't care to talk to you.
Affection is lost. He no longer wants to cuddle, compliment you, etc.
And last but not least, women have these "intuitive feelings." We always know when something isn't quite there.
I wonder if they would pay you uncharacteristic compliments....bring you flowers etc.?
Hmmm.....looks like I may be way off base.
P.C. wrote:
I wonder if they would pay you uncharacteristic compliments....bring you flowers etc.?
I'm not sure what you mean, PC.
I was thinking maybe bringing flowers or paying compliments to 'throw you off track'.
Oh, I see. You mean if he all of a sudden started doing that? I've never heard of a guy trying to suck up to the women if he was cheating on her. But heck, I could be wrong.
I find that once a guy is with another girl, he loses interest in his current relationship. He has given up already.
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depressing topic. How about Signs of a guy/girl liking you.
The first time she catches your eye she ostentatiously ignores you.
she does?
*writes that down*
probably because I'm an imposing figure.
P.C. wrote:
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Hopefully, no one here has to go through this with their current relationship. Cheaters never win! What goes around, comes around. I don't understand why these "cheaters" couldn't talk to their partners before going behind their backs. I have zero respect for cheaters.
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P.C. wrote:
I was thinking maybe bringing flowers or paying compliments to 'throw you off track'.[/DIV]
Could be a guilt trip. As in if the guy is married to her and he's having an affair, he buys her flowers because he's feeling guilty.
But on the whole, I don't think he would do something like that. He would probably distance himself from her. Avoiding all contact or anything to connect them together.
I just feel bad for the girls that this friend's brother is seeing. I can't believe he would go to all that extreme and get away with it. I bet he's done this deliberately (long distance relationship) so the girls won't stand a chance of finding out.
Hopefully, no one here has to go through this with their current relationship. Cheaters never win! What goes around, comes around. I don't understand why these "cheaters" couldn't talk to their partners before going behind their backs. I have zero respect for cheaters.
Too true purelife. I'd like to think karma would step in for cheaters. There is NEVER a good enough excuse....NEVER. Even if they can't talk to their partners....for gawds sake, just leave. That still hurts...but not near as bad as having your heart ripped to shreds by cheating. It changes you in a way that you can never get back. [img style="CURSOR: pointer" onclick=url(this.src); src="vny!://www.cheesebuerger.de/images/smilie/traurig/c040.gif" border=0]
Yeah. What's the saying....? Once bitten, twice shy. It's like you don't trust ANYONE any more. Kinda sad.
P.C. wrote:
Hopefully, no one here has to go through this with their current relationship. Cheaters never win! What goes around, comes around. I don't understand why these "cheaters" couldn't talk to their partners before going behind their backs. I have zero respect for cheaters.
Too true purelife. I'd like to think karma would step in for cheaters. There is NEVER a good enough excuse....NEVER. Even if they can't talk to their partners....for gawds sake, just leave. That still hurts...but not near as bad as having your heart ripped to shreds by cheating. It changes you in a way that you can never get back. [img style="CURSOR: pointer" onclick=url(this.src); src="vny!://www.cheesebuerger.de/images/smilie/traurig/c040.gif" border=0]
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I hear ya loud and clear sista! Bless ya cotton socks. :)))
Anybody ever seen Love Actually? One of the main characters is a cheating husband.
- guy leaves the room when talking on the cellphone (when the lady is there with him)
- consistantly working overtime (not necessarily a good sign to accuse one of cheating)
- removes picture of her on the inside of his cellphone / deletes picture files.. more like asians who do this (purikura)
- out with friends more
- guy leaves the room when talking on the cellphone (when the lady is there with him)
Oh, that seems like a good one Marik.
I'm wondering how people feel about telling the person (a friend or family member), if you know they are being cheated on ?
I would feel like I'm doing them a favour. It's better for them to know now, rather than later.
That's what my gut tells me too.....although it's easier said than done.
Yes, easier said than done for sure. But if you're a good friend, you'll do it (at least I would like to think so).
They will thank you later, when it's over. It gives them more time to handle being cheated on, etc. before they move onto another relationship, if they choose to do that.
unless its a high school type relationship, I don't think someone will just bounce back and start dating again.
Sportsdude wrote:
unless its a high school type relationship, I don't think someone will just bounce back and start dating again.
I don't think that's necessary true. You can certainly take on this experience and learn from it. You're wiser the second time round, perhaps cautious but you know, everyone deserves a second chance at love. I'm always a great believer that it can happen to anyone.
I know I'm just saying I don't think you immediately start dating the next day after you catch someone cheating, especially if you had been dating the person for a while.
Sportsdude wrote:
I know I'm just saying I don't think you immediately start dating the next day after you catch someone cheating, especially if you had been dating the person for a while.
It's called a 're-bound' relationship and it doesn't last. I've been in one where I just wanted to hurt the dude and I wanted to feel as if I was 'wanted' in this world. It's pretty messy... I wouldn't recommend it but when you're so hurt, you just want to do the next foolish thing to get your mind off it. Thank goodness I came to my senses before it was too late.
And each time I think about it... wow, I could just kick myself in the head.
holy crap that's mean.
Lise, I'm sooo sorry that Angelina left you for Brad Pitt. I really don't know what she sees in him. I would do something foolish too. (//forums/richedit/smileys/Teasing/4.gif)
I mean... to hurt the ex-BF. Not the guy whom I dated shortly after. The later guy was such a sweetheart that it just didn't feel right to be leding him on. Nothing happen in that, thank the gods.
I guess when it comes to relationship, it's downright messy and you just don't think straight sometimes.
purelife wrote:
[SPAN style="FONT-STYLE: italic"][/SPAN]Lise, I'm sooo sorry that Angelina left you for Brad Pitt. I really don't know what she sees in him. I would do something foolish too. (//forums/richedit/smileys/Teasing/4.gif)
Damn right, purelife!!! I can only hope she comes to her senses and come back to my bossom. I'll make her forget she even knows Brad in the first place, gawdamnit!
ah okay, yeah I've seen that a lot in 'high school' type relationships that are really really stupid and silly.
guy and girl break up then to get back they sleep with as many people as possible with a short amount of time to piss each other off. I just don't get it.
There is a book in Chapters right now, on sale, in one of those clearance shelves allll about the signs...check it out.
helper, do you know the name of the book? Thanks in advance.
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I've been wondering about that Marik. It's got to be more than mere coincidence. It happens to regularly and too perfectly to be random. (I must ask TB)
It's made an annoying necessity kinda fun.
Or there's this one.
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The intro reads very similar to your observations, Marik.
You are riding to the movies with your spouse and his cell phone rings. When he looks at the number, he does not answer it. The caller hangs up quickly. Several nights a week, your mate comes home late. Your time together seems so distant, and he's often distracted. Are you just crazy? Is your imagination getting the best of you? What if he's having an affair? Will you know what to do and when? And where do you begin? So many questions run through your mind. And now you are scared to face the future.
Hmm.. maybe that book is the one helper was talking about earlier. Sure fits with the topic. Good find, miss P.C.!
7:15 AM .. guess it's about time to hit the sack LOL
Lise wrote:
Someone recently asked me if I would know the signs of a guy cheating. I.... well, I'm not sure if I would know.
I bet if he was cheating he would probably:
a) leave the house at different hours of the day and not come back till very, very late
b) constantly talking about a certain someone ALL THE TIME and comparing her to you
c) don't seem really interested in doing stuff with you
This friend says her brother is cheating on not one but 3 different girls in different countries! Can you believe that?
What do you think are obvious signs? This goes for girls too, y'know. It's a two-way street. ___________________________________________________
With regards to your three statements, (a) sounds logical.. he/she would need time to spend with their mister / mistress... hey, what do you call a guy 'mistress', 'mister'?
(b) doesn't seem logical as he/she would know that by making ANY comparison of the other person to their spouse then that would give the spouse a clue that he/she has feelings for the other person.
(c) yes, I don't believe that the spouse would like to spend time with his/her spouse any longer. He/she would prefer spending all their spare time with the person they're having an affair with.