I really shouldn't complain, because in my twenty-seven years of adulthood, this is the first time my heart has been broken by a failing (failed?) relationship. Maybe that's because, in the past, I have been the "broker," not the "brokee." And not that I'm really a heart-breaker. I have only had three relationships in that twenty-seven years that were serious enough to have heart involvement. Unfortunately, two of those three were marriages. Ah, well.
But now, as I look to the future, I find that I can get all my other poop together, save for one area: what uses are there for a broken heart? For the longest time, my heart was a sponge, but I guess it has gotten to the place where it's wrung out, dried up and smelling moldy. There's got to be something I can do with this nearly useless leftover...
Here's the first thing that pops into my head:
Chew toy for the meanest, ugliest dog in the neighborhood.
Certainly, you could all help me with another 100 ideas of what to do with this broken down thing.
Ah, you got to love grief worked out publicly on the Internet, hehehe.
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My heart got lost a while back and I haven't been able to find it.
[span style="color: rgb(255, 0, 0);"]Sportsdude said *sniffle*[/span][br style="color: rgb(255, 0, 0);"][br style="color: rgb(255, 0, 0);"][span style="color: rgb(255, 0, 0);"]My heart got lost a while back and I haven't been able to find it.[/span][br style="color: rgb(255, 0, 0);"]
maybe we should start a treasure hunt for broken hearts. if we all find each others' broken hearts, we can collage the pieces together and make...*sniffle* an even bigger broken heart! er um...no...maybe we can make something whole *sniffle*
let me know if you come across mine.. it's black and blue and purple... cuz it got left out on the counter over night.
you probly won't be able to find mine its lost in space apparently or floating in the ocean. I'm hopeless.
yea, a broken heart is a very painful thing to heal.
it is amazing how we let one person have so much control on how we feel.
but you know what, even tho it doesnt feel good now, someone else will come along and help heal it for you.
but you know what, even tho it doesnt feel good now, someone else will come along and help heal it for you.
kingy's right...
so
- find another broken heart, and then put both broken hearts in a very small pot, pour some milk and honey on top of them and let them simmer on low for several months to a year
- then, take them both out and observe
- note how the crack on both hearts has disappeared and the new heart surface grew where they used to be ripped; also note a big scar in the middle of the new heart skin - if you try to touch it, it should give you a funny, tingling sensation right where the pain used to be unbearable
- most importantly - during the procedure, be very strong...:((
^ I can summarize the recipe above in one sentence:
"A broken heart is the clearest sign a universe can give a man to indicate that...
... he's become too much of a pussy." [A onclick="addImg('icon/icon_smile_big.gif')" href="jvascript:void(0)"](//vny!://www.discovervancouver.com/forum/icon_smile_big.gif)[/A]
melancollie is a girl, you........!!!
oh Raging Poodle don't know how you do it but you make me wanna say bad things!
I just blessed everyone here in this thread, including Raging Poodle! OMG!OMG!
aw, no broken heart here yet, too soon for that, but this new guy's driving me nuts already which isn'ta good sign. Why does dating have to be so stressful :p
It's Friday!! TGIF!
We've only got one heart, it gets broken many times - so somewhere along the line it must repair itself.
Bless me for I have sinned. I have trolled many innocent people and will do it again. It's only a matter of time...
kingy wrote:
but you know what, even tho it doesnt feel good now, someone else will come along and help heal it for you.
I appreiciate the sentiment, but that's it's for me. after two failed marriages, i'm done with relationships. i'm too old to try again, hehehe. i will pour myself into something more rewarding-- a charity or grandchildren (when my kids get around to having kids...but at this rate... hehehe).
however, i think for most people, it's better to get back on the horse again. as long as you're wearing a helmet *ouch*
oh come on now you're 27 not 57. If you don't need a husband thats fine but I bet there is someone out there thats not looking for a wife just a companion. I know because thats what my uncle is going through. He's got a long term girlfriend thats just that a friend. I don't think it will go any further or that they even want it too.
Sportsdude wrote:
oh come on now you're 27 not 57. If you don't need a husband thats fine but I bet there is someone out there thats not looking for a wife just a companion. I know because thats what my uncle is going through. He's got a long term girlfriend thats just that a friend. I don't think it will go any further or that they even want it too.
er um...thanks for taking a few years off, but i'm not 27. i'm 43. i don't need a husband..but i have spent all of my adult life with one...but since that isn't working out, it's curtains for me. i don't like men my age...younger guys are no longer interested in me. i have had nearly a dozen surgeries over the last few years and i ain't gonna subject this body to any seeing person. in fact, i have a body now that only a husband (or really bizarre fetishist) could love, hehehe.
also, if all i wanted was companionship i would get a dog, hehehe.
there are a million other things to do...i just hadn't counted on defaulting to those other million things because i thought the last marriage was worth keeping and working on.
oh I'm sorry for the age mix up. Thought you were 27 since you started your thread with in "in my 27 years of adulthood". I'm sorry for the mix up.
Sportsdude wrote:
oh I'm sorry for the age mix up. Thought you were 27 since you started your thread with in "in my 27 years of adulthood". I'm sorry for the mix up.
ah, no prob. i wouldn't mind being 27 again, hehehe. let's see, at 27 i was...preggers with number 4 son. i was living in virginia, which was dirt cheap... hmmm...wait...maybe 17 was better. think i'll shave off another 10 years. ah, if only i had a magic wand...
I misread the original message and thought you were 27 also.
So now at 43, with a badly disfigured body as you described it, and all the hurt and baggage about men... what to do, what to do...
... hmm, hey ever thought of switching camps? I know this small community of dykes that meet at a cafe on Commercial Drive twice a month... [A onclick="addImg('icon/icon_smile_cool.gif')" href="jvascript:void(0)"](//vny!://www.discovervancouver.com/forum/icon_smile_cool.gif)[/A]
female wrote:
melancollie is a girl, you........!!!
oh Raging Poodle don't know how you do it but you make me wanna say bad things!
I bring out the dirty girl in you you say... Hey I tend to have that influence on women. Too bad you can't do perfect cartwheels, otherwise we could've come up with an arrangement. [A onclick="addImg('icon/icon_smile_big.gif')" href="jvascript:void(0)"](//vny!://www.discovervancouver.com/forum/icon_smile_big.gif)[/A]
lol
yeah, too bad:)))
Raging Poodle! wrote:
I misread the original message and thought you were 27 also. [/p] So now at 43, with a badly disfigured body as you described it, and all the hurt and baggage about men... what to do, what to do... [/p] ... hmm, hey ever thought of switching camps? I know this small community of dykes that meet at a cafe on Commercial Drive twice a month... [a onclick="addImg('icon/icon_smile_cool.gif')" href="jvascript:void%280%29"](//vny!://www.discovervancouver.com/forum/icon_smile_cool.gif)[/a][/p] ah, now, isn't it enough that my husband has rejected me? now you want a community of dykes to reject me, too? hehehe. oh, i've already been that way and back again. i wasn't neither "butch" enough, nor "femme" enough to find a date in san francisco, hehehe. but next time i'm in seattle...
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Sad to hear that, melancollie.
I can only say this.... a broken heart is painful, there's no denying there but think of it this way. It will make you a stronger and better person in the end so don't give up hope. It's not meant to be and there will be another gentleman who will mend that heart of yours.
Though I did not suffer from the broken heart syndrome, I think my pride was more wounded. What I thought was love wasn't really. It was just a silly crush (I blame my youth - who doesn't) and what I learnt from the experience was that I could move on. The world isn't cruel, the sky is still there, the flowers are still beautiful.... so no use crying over something that isn't meant to be.
Hey Lise, your crush wasn't that guy who took you on a date to mcdonalds, now that was a funny story....
Anyway I've never really suffered from a 'broken heart' more of a lonely heart to the point that I think I can never be loved. Really sad and pathetic, I know.
"It is but to keep the nerves at strain,
To dry one's eyes and laugh at a fall,
And, baffled, get up and begin again, -
So the chase takes up one's life, that's all."
- Robert Browning
SD - no, he wasn't. He was a bit of a crush to me at first but I soon learnt that there's nothing substantial to this man after getting to know him. It wasn't just the cheapskate act, it was the fact that he's got no clue how to carry a conversation or how to impress a girl. Imagine a night with this fellow and all he talks about was 'how great Spain was.... how great Barcelona was when it hosted the Olympics..... how many ppl are in Spain compared to Australia.... blah blah blah.'
The guy I had a crush on wasn't interested in me. OH THE HUMANITY. Who the hell wouldn't be interested in Lise for crying out loud? *heheh* Then again, I'm a lot more confident these days. It wouldn't be the same shy Lise when she first met him.
Broken hearts can still be mend. If anything, it'll make you stronger and more experience. You'll know what to expect in the next relationship.
Lise wrote:
Sad to hear that, melancollie.
I can only say this.... a broken heart is painful, there's no denying there but think of it this way. It will make you a stronger and better person in the end so don't give up hope. It's not meant to be and there will be another gentleman who will mend that heart of yours.
Ah, Lise, thanks for your kind, kind words. This ordeal WILL make me a stronger, better person in the end. But quite frankly, I thought I had gotten enough strength and better personage from that first marriage and suffering through several years of being seriously ill, rearing 4 children, graduating from college, finding a job and trying my best to be a good wife. (I'ma thinking I've racked up some pretty decent karma points, if nothing else).
I guess I will just have to go through "the process" again... which is harder this time, because I still believe in my marriage. I still love my husband, and I wish he was willing to work at improvement our marriage. The only reason, at this point, why it is "not meant to be..." is because hubby is unwilling to try. Oh, well.
Perhaps I could have a tawdry affair with someone... wonder if Angelina is done with Brad, hehehe.
Sportsdude wrote:
Hey Lise, your crush wasn't that guy who took you on a date to mcdonalds, now that was a funny story....
Oh, dear! A McDonalds date? tsk-tsk...sorry you had to endure that, Lise, hehehe. I decided I wanted a divorce from husband number one after he promised a special birthday dinner in Hawaii-- and took me to a McDonalds...in a mall. ick!
Must make a note to remind my boys that McDonald's is probably not a suitable date unless your intended as specifically requested it (ala Carrie on SATC)
An old friend of mine (now no longer with us) met this cool girl, and for their first date took her to a bar. Which needn't have been too bad except that after telling him what she wanted to drink, and going to the washroom, she came back to find the waiter taking the drinks away. She'd been gone 5 minutes. Seems my friend got into a fight in the interim. When she asked what happened, he pointed to a guy and said, "That F***** A* over there..."... and the fight was on again So the cops come and throw my friend in jail, which was fine, since the whole thing was undoubtedly his fault. Naturally, after he got out of jail, they moved in together.
She had more bad date stories. A guy takes her to the track (great horse-player he), but doesn't really know how to bet. He goes and gets himself a sandwich, & asks her if she wants a bite!
She goes on a double, a Sunday afternoon, what could go wrong? Her date, and the other guy's date drift off somewhere, and eventually this guy comes on to her. She's like, what're you talkin' about, my date's right here.....somewhere...." The guy says, "come & take a look." The other two are getting it on. She totally freaks out (she's a bit of an innocent, but this is too freaky for anybody, especially without prior notice. So she flips out, and the other three are trying to calm her down. Her impression at this point was that they seemed to think she was spoiling their day.
She had a pile of stories, like the one where she ends up in jail (no fault of her own, she was a true innocent), but I would get tired from typing them all out. My friend was not pleased that we got into all these bad date stories, maybe because it was his behaviour that inspired the topic. He was a nice guy, but a little crazy .
Somehow I lost sight of the fact that this is a broken heart thread, and not a bad date thread. Sorry about that meloncollie. But it sounds like you're gonna recover. Sometimes I think the institution of marriage is itself the stressor that can fracture a faltering relationship. Maybe next time steer clear of the institution and hold out for the best relationship? Hell, what do I know? But this got me to wondering:
Perhaps I could have a tawdry affair with someone... wonder if Angelina is done with Brad, hehehe.
Which one are you looking to pick up on the rebound?
only time heals.
the worst part of it the self doubt and second guessing.
weird al wrote:
Somehow I lost sight of the fact that this is a broken heart thread, and not a bad date thread. Sorry about that meloncollie. But it sounds like you're gonna recover.
and then quoted me and added:
[/div][div][em]Perhaps I could have a tawdry affair with someone... wonder if Angelina is done with Brad, hehehe.[/em]
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[/em] Which one are you looking to pick up on the rebound?
ah, weird...i never once considered that you were "hijacking" my thread, hehehe. your stories about your friend took the thread in a more interesting direction-- far from my whining. though, i hate to be amused by someone's dating misfortune...hehehe...er, um...hmmmm.
as to whether or it would be angie or brad...i could go either way. threesome, anyone? hehehe. er, but that would only work if *I* could be the center of attention!
Sounds eminently do-able. I'd be glad to provide whatever support is needed, only Brad's gotta be not there..