Posted by P.C.
- Aug 14 07 09:11Yea....I think it's a food prep/quantity issue too purelife. On the other hand, I would never (could never) ask to invite my friends along with me on a dinner invite. I think that a person could simply say....We'd love to be able to make dinner on Saturday night....unfortunately we have some people that will be coming by........ Putting in back in the hosts hands to say.....either ...."Well bring them along"....or...."Oh dear....bad luck for us.....maybe we can try again next weekend".
Posted by purelife
- Aug 14 07 08:48If I had the space and enough food for them, then they could come. Usually, I say no because I don't have the space nor did I prepare enough food.
Posted by Sportsdude
- Aug 14 07 04:06first do I know this Larry or Jenny? Second if I don't, no way jose (esecially if I knew the kind of friends the person saying this hung around). If I knew Larry or Jenny then maybe. Depends what kind of gathering I was aiming for.
Posted by P.C.
- Aug 14 07 03:52OK....next social dilemma.
How do you respond to someone whom you have invited to dinner, who says..."Oh...is it OK if we bring along Larry and Jenny?"
How do you respond to someone whom you have invited to dinner, who says..."Oh...is it OK if we bring along Larry and Jenny?"
Posted by Michel
- Aug 14 07 07:49I remember splurging on a Prime Rib Roast one night. Our guest picked at it and then announced that [span style="font-weight: bold; text-decoration: underline; font-style: italic;"]she would just take the rest home for her dog[/span]. (it was Prime rib perfection I tell ya)
*noise made by a cocking gun in the distance*
*noise made by a cocking gun in the distance*
Posted by Michel
- Aug 14 07 07:46I even resorted to asking people from this forum if they wanted to go.
Oh sh** and I tought you were in love with me !
lol
Joking apart, sad situation PL. That was kind for asking.
Oh sh** and I tought you were in love with me !
lol Joking apart, sad situation PL. That was kind for asking.
Posted by P.C.
- Aug 13 07 11:22How frustrating purelife. You could incorporate a cancellation policy. It's 'only' $5 bucks for you to go, but $30 to cancel. But you know....it's not all about the money. It's about someone who has invested their heart and time into planning and organizing the event. It's a big let-down.
[SPAN style="FONT-WEIGHT: bold"]How do you feel about people who constantly don't finish what they put on their plate?[/SPAN]
THAT'S and emotional issue for sure. That one stems directly from how you are raised. It's bordering on sinful (IMO) to take food and not eat it. (because that's how I was raised) I remember splurging on a Prime Rib Roast one night. Our guest picked at it and then announced that she would just take the rest home for her dog. (it was Prime rib perfection I tell ya) Oy. [TABLE bgColor=#ffffdd border=1] [TBODY] [TR] [TD align=middle colSpan=2][SMALL]Anti-Spam Bot-Stopper
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THAT'S and emotional issue for sure. That one stems directly from how you are raised. It's bordering on sinful (IMO) to take food and not eat it. (because that's how I was raised) I remember splurging on a Prime Rib Roast one night. Our guest picked at it and then announced that she would just take the rest home for her dog. (it was Prime rib perfection I tell ya) Oy. [TABLE bgColor=#ffffdd border=1] [TBODY] [TR] [TD align=middle colSpan=2][SMALL]Anti-Spam Bot-Stopper
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Posted by Sportsdude
- Aug 13 07 11:16 purelife wrote:
Oh, I've got another question.
How do you feel about people who constantly don't finish what they put on their plate?
Oh boy, where to begin. Going to my Oma's house in Florida you have to eat everything on your plate or she'd give you a concentration camp story of her scraping mold off of bread. She gives you the "talk" as I put it. You don't want to get the little german lady angry nor hear the depressing story so you ate. I've sort of carried on that motto of be thankful for what you have.
Oh, I've got another question.
How do you feel about people who constantly don't finish what they put on their plate?
Oh boy, where to begin. Going to my Oma's house in Florida you have to eat everything on your plate or she'd give you a concentration camp story of her scraping mold off of bread. She gives you the "talk" as I put it. You don't want to get the little german lady angry nor hear the depressing story so you ate. I've sort of carried on that motto of be thankful for what you have.
Posted by Sportsdude
- Aug 13 07 11:12 Yeah maybe in the future you could have a 'last back out date'. That way you sort of force them to come (baring emergency) and if a lot do back out, a final date to do so would give you enough time to give the ticket events to a children's hospital or a boys and girls club (do they have those in Canada?).
Posted by purelife
- Aug 13 07 11:10Oh, I've got another question.
How do you feel about people who constantly don't finish what they put on their plate?
How do you feel about people who constantly don't finish what they put on their plate?
Posted by purelife
- Aug 13 07 11:08Oh, I was pissed (sorry for my choice of the harsh word). Our committee initially only ordered 50 tickets but due to the high response, we ordered 50 more. In the end, I had some unused tickets. I sold some to scalpers there but the rest, couldn't do so in time. I would've loved to give them away to a Children's place or something (like a hospital or school) if I had the time to. But when I had these tickets on the day of the event, it was difficult. I even resorted to asking people from this forum if they wanted to go. I would have given them for free. I still have some tickets in my wallet, unused. People these days... aaarrggh!
Posted by purelife
- Aug 13 07 11:05I would tell them how you really feel PC. Tell your friends (who cancelled) that you put so much effort into this and them cancelling on you isn't a nice thing and it makes you feel like they're not valuing your time. If they were your true friends, they'd try their best to understand your side of view. I believe in being honest with your friends. It's a great way in learning how much they can handle and if they are truly your friend. There's friends and then there's friends.
Posted by Sportsdude
- Aug 13 07 11:01 that's pathetically sad purelife.
If that happened to me but in advance I'd give the tickets to an inner city youth program or something (if possible)
If that happened to me but in advance I'd give the tickets to an inner city youth program or something (if possible)
Posted by P.C.
- Aug 13 07 11:01Me too purelife.....pretty understanding. But 'we're really tired' doesn't cut it for me. I usually put a pretty goodly amount of fuss into it when I have people for dinner. (I actually have friends that do this on a somewhat regular basis.) I love them to pieces, but it drives me crazy.
What can you do. I guess I'm wondering if there is any totally cool way to say something when they do this. Because I think it's really only a matter of different ways of how one is raised....I don't think it's something they give much thought to. For the most part, I 'let it go'. But I do find myself not really giving it my ALL the next time I invite them.
What can you do. I guess I'm wondering if there is any totally cool way to say something when they do this. Because I think it's really only a matter of different ways of how one is raised....I don't think it's something they give much thought to. For the most part, I 'let it go'. But I do find myself not really giving it my ALL the next time I invite them.
Posted by purelife
- Aug 13 07 10:58 P.C. wrote:
Oops...that last post was in response to SD.
Me too purelife. I have to be in crawling mode to cancel if I was the invitER. [span style="font-style: italic; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 128);"]Do you find people are less concerned about these types of 'commitments' now?[/span]
[hr style="width: 100%; height: 2px;"]YES! For sure. At my company, I belong to the Sports Committee where we organize events for our company to attend. Basically, our company gives our committee a budget every year and we spend the money. (oh so fun!) Anyways, our last event that we planned was a baseball game. For a value of $26, it included a baseball game and a BBQ buffet. All the employee and guest(s) had to pay was $5 and the company covered the rest. Good deal, right?!
Anyways, people were cancelling at the last minute saying "oh, I just don't feel like it...or, I don't know if we're going to go...or, it's only 5 dollars!!!!" I was just pissed when they said "oh, it's only $5!!" The company loses money for each person because we had already paid Nat Bailey Stadium the money for 100 people in advance. So, I sent an email out to everyone in the company helping them understand that the company loses money for you not attending and that our committee has put so much effort in organizing this.
People these days don't care about committments. It doesn't mean much anymore. (generally speaking)
Oops...that last post was in response to SD.
Me too purelife. I have to be in crawling mode to cancel if I was the invitER. [span style="font-style: italic; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 128);"]Do you find people are less concerned about these types of 'commitments' now?[/span]
[hr style="width: 100%; height: 2px;"]YES! For sure. At my company, I belong to the Sports Committee where we organize events for our company to attend. Basically, our company gives our committee a budget every year and we spend the money. (oh so fun!) Anyways, our last event that we planned was a baseball game. For a value of $26, it included a baseball game and a BBQ buffet. All the employee and guest(s) had to pay was $5 and the company covered the rest. Good deal, right?!
Anyways, people were cancelling at the last minute saying "oh, I just don't feel like it...or, I don't know if we're going to go...or, it's only 5 dollars!!!!" I was just pissed when they said "oh, it's only $5!!" The company loses money for each person because we had already paid Nat Bailey Stadium the money for 100 people in advance. So, I sent an email out to everyone in the company helping them understand that the company loses money for you not attending and that our committee has put so much effort in organizing this.
People these days don't care about committments. It doesn't mean much anymore. (generally speaking)