Secrets or tips.. hmm. We are mother/daughter and best friends. The trick is knowing when I
need to be -
have to be mom and when I can be her best friend. Correct any bad manners or bad behavior at an early age... seems harsh but it totally works. I
never tell her "do as I say, not as I do". Always try to lead by example. At an early age instill the importance of a good education (she's already preparing for college.. at age 10!) Be active in every aspect of the childs life. I don't hover and I don't attend every outting (if there are other adults) but I think it's good for her to know that I'm interested in her life. I'm willing to stop whatever Im doing if she needs me... especially to talk. Keep it real. I don't allow my daughter to know the nitty gritty details of certain situations.. she is a kid afterall... but she does need to know that sometimes life is going to get hard... be it with family, school, friends and there ways to positively handle those situations. Having bad feelings or thoughts isn't wrong. We're all human, we all have them. The difference is knowing how to handle it. Everyone makes mistakes so I don't let her feel bad is something goes wrong... but I do try to make sure she's learned a lesson from that mistake. Charity work is a wonderful positive way to remind us of what we have and to be grateful for it. Plus seeing the gratitude from others is such a blessing. Teaching kids financial responsibility is very important. I opened a savings account for her when she was 5. For the past couple of years, shes had an active part in every aspect of that account. We have our own little system worked out. She has two piggy banks in her room. One for fun, one for the savings. She earns her money then divides it into both piggys. When they fill up I drive her to the bank to deposit her bank money. Then we leave there so she can go crazy with her fun money
which leads me to fun. She's a kid and I want her to enjoy that as much as possible. After the seriousness of school and/or chores is over, it's time to just be silly and be a kid. I know it seems like I'm overloading her but it's really not like that at all. She only has chores on non-school days. On school days I prefer she concentrate on shcool stuff only. This way she spends so much time on the priority for that day and the rest of the day is fun.
For the most part, I'm just blessed. She's always been an easy going kid, easy baby to care for, has a good heart, kind spirit. Most of what she is isn't because of me. It's because Jesus gave her to me that way
She's everything I've prayed for and more. I let her know everyday that I love her all the sky, I'm here for her no matter what happens. I guess love is what it really boils down to. Everything else is just simple guidance.