ah if he's talking about revenge I go by Confucious on this one I can't remember the exact quote i had it as my sig for ages. But but its about prepare to dig two graves if you go on a journey of revenge. I've always believed in not going after someone for 'revenge' because it doesn't work, you in the end will feel just as guilty or worse for doing something wrong. Its best to let the person suffer from their own consquences then for you to take one of them on.