I knew this girl who moved out of her parents' place while she was still in school ( 2 or 3 girls, come to think of it).
Anyway, this girl and her father were like cat and dog - constantly on each other's case, always involved in heavy arguments. There was no hint of abuse, just really bad chemistry. She moved out, worked, finished school, the whole deal.
Cool young lady, smart, funny and tough. Eventually her dad said "c'mon back, I bought you a bunch of nice furniture"
She says, "thanks dad, but I didn't move out 'cause of the furniture."
They're fine now but at the time, she absolutely had to get away from all the hassle.
I think when somebody is determined to live on their own, the best advice is not about Yes or No, but about practical matters. Things like: "not knowing who he actualy is"
This ^ sucks. Things can get very complicated very fast. Like, how many people are coming over at any given time? Who are they?
Especially when you don't really know him.
I'd say, it sounds like you've gotta get out, but try to set it up so there's stability and security. It's do-able.
Good luck.
