Sportsdude wrote:
[span style="font-weight: bold; font-style: italic;"]How come when a human man or woman think that? ...if its a woman looking at a guy they think were jerks or something?[/span]
Because our preoccupation with physical beauty is culturally reinforced, and often the fact that the beautiful are given special deference makes them feel entitled and arrogant. I realize that the whole notion of selecting for beauty has an evolutionary advantage and all that, but we should make a point, especially as parents, to praise people's decency, their honesty, their intelligence, their compassion.
Listen to people talking to young children. It's very natural to say, "Oh, you're such a doll! Such a pretty little girl!" But we have to be thinking about it to deliver praise like, "I'm so impressed with how you figured that out." or "I love the way you helped her to pick up the marbles she dropped."
But I think that also, to a large degree, our reaction to beautiful people who have shown NO signs of being jerks is a reflection of how we feel about ourselves. In school when I was a kid, the most attractive children were popular and mean. Our treatment of the beautiful sets up a vicious cycle where we fear them and exacerbate self-defeating behaviors.
