So... Whats for lunch?

Sportsdude · Aug 18 07 03:46

I'm stranded at home until people come home to pick me up.
weddings are cool. But I hate it how the wedding party takes 5hrs to get to the wedding reception. Starving the rest of us.

Lise · Aug 18 07 03:49

Ah, I don't mind the wait. I've learnt over the years to eat a big snack before going to weddings. I know how long those speeches can be.

Why are you stranded at home?

Sportsdude · Aug 18 07 04:00

Sis, mom, grandma are 'shopping for me' aka dorm stuff and college clothes and having a blast apparently.

We're going to do something when they get home.

Yeah, weird about the wedddings, I don't know if this is a pre curser to the future. But all the big weddings I've been to, the couple gets divorced.

Now I don't know what that means but that's just an informal observation. lol
All the smaller weddings where you can count all the people in the room, they're still married.

Lise · Aug 18 07 04:05

Thank goodness you're not at my wedding, SD!

How come you're not out shopping for your own 'dorm' stuff? I mean don't you want a say in what you're going to bring over? Have you started packing yet?

Sportsdude · Aug 18 07 04:10

hahaha let me guess your wedding was HUGE.

I dunno maybe I'm just a bad luck charm.
I've been to 15 weddings and only 2 are still married. lol

Lise · Aug 18 07 04:15

No, my wedding was actually quite small. We had about 70 guests so it was just right and perfect. That's the thing I've learnt, it's better to have a small wedding with friends and family than to have a big bang with people you don't even know.

I'm sure when it's time for your wedding, SD, you'll be having the best time of your life. Probably looking forward to your marriage bed. Hehe.

Sportsdude · Aug 18 07 04:21

lol my family is like mr. lil me's family. I'd be afraid to bring them to Vancouver to meet the in laws family. They would probably just stare at each other and not talk. There world view is so small its sad.

Sportsdude · Aug 18 07 04:23

anyway I've got to go. talk to you later lise.

Lise · Aug 18 07 04:31

Bye SD. Take care!

Lil Me · Aug 18 07 05:28

Hey Lise, SD and P.C.

Hope everyone is having a good weekend. I'm back from the kids' bike ride and library trip.

Leftover salmon burgers and pasta for dinner.

P.C. · Aug 18 07 06:08

Hi Lil Me.....and whoever else is left here.

I'm a sucker for weddings too. There may be something to your observation SD. I can't help but wonder about these couples that start out going into huge debt to 'impress' their friends/family with a wedding they can't afford. Those debts have got to carry over into their daily life in a negative way once 'the big day' is done.

We had a teeny wedding in our yard. I'm with Lise on the good food part. You should serve good food. We absolutely wanted an open bar....which was easy as we only had 50 guests. The only person we hired was a good bartender.....lol. Plenty of great photos were taken by guests.....plus each garden table had a disposable camera on it.....with instructions to take pics of each other....not us. As you can't be everywhere at the same time....this allowed us to see all the things we missed. It was wonderful.*sigh*

I haven't even thought about dinner. We spent the day in the yard just cleaning and tidying.....neverending task.

Sportsdude · Aug 18 07 10:31

That sounds like the perfect wedding P.C. My family never gets together so weddings and funerals are like a family renunion. We end up sitting around a table telling stories. My cousins wedding was like that. Since the church rejected them because they lived together they had to do a commercial wedding at a wedding chapel in Gatlinburg Tennessee. They had about 30 people there, nobody really cared about how many people were there. If it was at the church (if they were allowed) they'd probably have a huge wedding. But it was super quite and nice.
Meanwhile my other cousin invited the whole town and needed the biggest gathering hall in the little town to serve the people. It wasn't fun.

I think it shows what kind of people the couple is going to be. The big wedding the wedding party ignored the family and just partied. While the smaller wedding everyone talked it was almost like a family dinner and we all bonded and didn't want it to end.

The big couple got divorced 3 years later and the other one had a kid and is building a house now. Not saying that big weddings are bad, they just come off as superficial and fake.

P.C. · Aug 18 07 11:19

Well....I don't think it's a rule that I'd live by. I just wonder if some of those things creep into the day to day struggles.....like.....'why did you have to spend $8000.00 on a dress to wear for 3 hours?' I mean, I know people who have spent enough on a wedding for a substantial down payment on a house.....while they remain in their cramped little appartment, with no hope of getting out because they're so in debt.

Just doesn't make sense to me.

Sportsdude · Aug 18 07 11:29

they just come off as one big show. Its like here I'm going to show you how much I love this person with this huge huge wedding!
almost like an ego trip.

Lise · Aug 18 07 11:31

Y'know, SD.... I would give something to have my family surround me... even if it's only for a short reunion. You've no idea how lucky you are to still have family around you. Mine are spread all over the world and I don't get to see them as much. I miss them so much...

Ah, PC. What a lovely wedding idea. Perhaps you wouldn't mind telling them to Lise Jr. when she comes up to us and asks us to pay for her wedding?

Our wedding budget was something like $8,000 including the place we rented, DJ, photographer, dress (we rented), food, minister, etc. etc. etc. Quite a bargain compare to the isnanely expensive wedding charges people charge these days. And I still don't understand why one would need a wedding planner. Crazy.