You are absolutely right and have learned to accept that that was how my parents were raised. I know that my dad loves me a lot and that he worked hard for the household.
I'll have to start another thread about the "signs."
49er wrote:
purelife wrote:
........ We've never really been close. I have never received a hug from my dad and it was only once that I hugged him when I left at the airport.[/DIV]
This happens so much in immigrant families. Many immigrant families, particularly Chinese, have such difficulties showing their love for their children as westerners do publicly or privately. Remember they themselves never experienced the kisses or hugs from their parents, I bet if back in the old country their strict code of behavior would be considered normal.....your dad love you no less. His way of showing love for the family was worked his ass off to provide shelter and food on the table for the family so his kids will have an easier time. His early curfews and strict rules were his ways, as he knew, to protect his daughter ....remember also during this period he was under extreme pressure to adjust to a new world and likely was taking a lot of crap at work because he was a FOB. You, on the other hand, was carefree, still a child going to school and being assimilated into western culture.
Make the move, go home and visit, talk with your dad while you still have the chance..........I bet you will end up feeling better.
