What's in your emotional baggage?
I go off the deep end if I lose (or Mr LM or Heckyl and Jeckyl loses) something. It's totally irrational, but it's inherited from my parents. I've been in a totally foul mood tonight because Heckyl cannot find his Flonase nasal spray. It's not even the fact that it's a preseciption, or that it cost $35. It's the fact that he's disorganized and can't find something. Woe unto the person who loses a playing card or a puzzle piece. I can't handle it. Mr Lm says I should be in therapy for this affliction.
yelling and shouting. Its how my family talks to each other. A lot of people think we're angry at each other but we're not its just how we communicate. lol
It came from my dad's side german-hungarian parents my grandparents. That's how my grand parents would talk to each other. Lots of shouting lots of critising but it really means nothing, not really angry just trying to talk to each other.
awwww... Lil Me... *HUGZ*...
I think that it's the unwilligness to accept chaos. I had that problem once (don't think it was inherited) but I have learnt to let go and relax. It sure does take LOTS of time and patience with myself and people have to be patient with me. :))
By now I think I've worked my way through any leftover emotional baggage from my childhood. It mostly had to do with being brought up in a fundamentalist religion. I still don't talk to my younger sister, though!
I don't know if this is inherited but I really really don't like to be late nor have someone show up late when there is a rendez-vous. There better be a good darn excuse for being late. I usually calm down once I find out the reason....
I'm notoriously slow/late.
Speaking of arriving on time and being late, one time, my b/f thought that it would be funny to hide my watch on me. So, when we left our apt, I FREAKED because I didn't have my watch on. He told me to relax because I didn't need a watch because he had one and that we weren't pressured for time or anything like that. For about 3 minutes or probably more, I fussed about not having a watch and not knowing what time it is and just went nuts.
It was then that I realized that I grew too attached to time and just had to learn to let go and relax. And my guy was right. :))) He's the best. :))
Cool. I can't go out without a watch on. I feel naked. (and not in a good way!)
time is just a figure to me. lol
Don't have a watch I use the cell phone.
He's right though, if your not in a rush or lets say going to the mall or something. Why worry about the time, just enjoy the day. You know stop and smell the roses sometime.
Being late is one thing I do obsess about. I would rather show up early for an appointment than be even a minute late.
I think the emotional baggage that affects me the most, is my parents EXTREME sense of privacy. There's a lot of good in that. But one of the ways it affects me, (and it took a long time to discover it) is that I rarely ask questions. Like with friends.
So one of my friends will relate a complete run down on what's going on with someone, and I end up thinking......hmm...I wonder why they didn't tell ME any of that. (and of course I feel left out of the loop) I finally learned that she knows stuff, because she asks questions.
In spite of the fact, that I've figured it out, I STILL can't ask. I think that if someone wants to share a story with me....they will. (which isn't necessarily true) I believe that this 'problem' translates to some as a lack of interest, when that so isn't the case.
I feel the same way. I don't want to pry into something if they don't bring up the subject first. I'm sure that makes me seem standoffish, but it just doesn't seem polite.
Exactly Kitten. Sometimes though....it's a bit of a hindrance....and it does have a negative fog around it. I know for sure that 'standoffishness' is definitely one of the impressions people get.
I sometimes get bold and ask things out of character for me, and notice a shift in the 'closeness' of the conversation. It remains awkward for me....but every one in a while I live on the edge....LOL
I was taught not to obey authority and asked questions growing up. So I play 'counselour' to my friends a lot. Everybody comes to me. lol
I always feel awkward in social situations, P.C., but like you I was raised to be seen but not heard. Emotional baggage, indeed.
hmm..my emotional baggage...when I am angry..I have to fight off the urge to grab and hurt. I witnessed alot of that growing up. Was on the receiving end of it too. Privacy...also an issue..but I am ok with that.
kitten wrote:
I always feel awkward in social situations, P.C., but like you I was raised to be seen but not heard. Emotional baggage, indeed.
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Same here, Kitten and with lots of 'keeping things secret' thrown in.
Gopher wrote:
kitten wrote:
I always feel awkward in social situations, P.C., but like you I was raised to be seen but not heard. Emotional baggage, indeed.
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Same here, Kitten and with lots of 'keeping secrets' thrown in.
Gopher wrote:
Gopher wrote:
kitten wrote:
I always feel awkward in social situations, P.C., but like you I was raised to be seen but not heard. Emotional baggage, indeed.
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Same here, Kitten and with lots of 'keeping secrets' thrown in. However, I don't feel awkward in social situations nowadays, I simply avoid them.
I hope everyone is finding this healing session therapeutic. *HUGGGZZZZ* Keep it coming folks. My couch is always open for business.
My couch is always open for business.
O RLY?! ;)
Is the couch very comfy, Lil Me? My butt doesn't like hard cushions.
not in that sense. I don't approve of poutine stains on the couch.
I am , however, a good listener.
Where is your couch exactly Lil Me? And what colour is it ? Did you pay cash or credit for it? How old is it ?
Yup.....it's working for me.....I'm getting better by the minute. [img style="CURSOR: pointer" onclick=url(this.src); src="http://www.cheesebuerger.de/images/smilie/frech/h040.gif" border=0]
The couch is very comfy. It has a beige futon cover on it and lots of fluffy pillows.
Yep, I have to agree with you Lil Me that you are an excellent listener! :)) *bless*
That sounds lovely. And I won't spill the poutine...I'll be too busy wolfing it down before it gets cold.
P.C., how can you say you are getting better when you have already reached perfection?
Lil Me wrote:
The couch is very comfy. It has a beige futon cover on it and lots of fluffy pillows.
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Does it double for 'casting'?
lol. not this week.
It's the gathering place for wounded souls and lost puppies.
Could I request chocolate and wine on your couch?
And can I share it with you, purelife?
Everyone lie down and I'll start pouring drinks.
Of course Gopher. There's plenty to go around.
I have problems when people lie to me. I'd rather hear the truth.
Are you sure?
If the truth is as unpleasant as the lie I'd just as soon not hear either, but in any case truth is preferable.
^^^
What she said.