Would this end a relationship for you?

Started by DDD, May 18 11 02:47

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If your BF or GF said "I do not like your Mom" and had no reason would you end the relationship?

Yes
0 (0%)
No
3 (50%)
For no reason at all....YES GO AWAY
2 (33.3%)
Would talk it out and then decide
1 (16.7%)

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DDD

May 18 11 02:47
What would end it right away for you
God is great, beer is good and people are crazy!

purelife

#1
May 19 11 10:25
I selected No.  

  If he didn't like my mom and didn't give a reason, I'd ask that at least he tries to be civil with her whenever he sees her.  I will still try to get a reason out of him because I'm pretty open-minded about it and may even come to an agreement with him.  No mom is perfect and there are always pluses and minuses.  I know my mom ain't.  

  It's not worth jeopardizing a relationship just because the other person doesn't like your parents, imo.  I mean, it does help that we all "get along."  It would be difficult to live with a person who would never see your parent but it's possible.  

  I personally see my mom-in-law about once per season.  I'd like to keep it this way.  Mr PL is aware of the reasons why I dislike her.  He agrees.  I act civil whenever I see her.  I'm not ready to call her "mom" yet and he is understanding.  I'm just thankful that I don't have a momma's boy who is her only son/kid.  :P

purelife

#2
May 19 11 10:28
What ends a relationship for me is physical, mental and emotional abuse.  I find all other things to be very minor.  As long as there are more positives in the relationship, I'm all for remaining loyal and lenient for as long as possible.

Natasha

#3
May 19 11 05:26
^ what she said  :)

  And I also chose "no". For the same reasons as stated above. Some times there doesn't have to be an actual reason. Some people just put off odd vibes toward each other. Personally I think the only way there's going to be resolution is for the gf and mother to talk it out. At least try to. The discontent may be due to a misunderstanding.

P.C.

#4
May 25 11 03:24
For no reason at all....YES GO AWAY

 Has to be something wrong with someone who doesn't like somebody for no reason at all.  I'd wonder how long before other issues pop up.  
Sir Isaac Newton invented the swinging door....for the convenience of his cat.

TehBorken

#5
May 25 11 04:06
 P.C. wrote:
Has to be something wrong with someone who doesn't like somebody for no reason at all.

Exactly.


I'd wonder how long before other issues pop up.  

And the answer is...probably not very long.
 
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Lil Me

#6
May 25 11 08:59
I'm with P.C. and TehB on this one.
"In the absence of clearly-defined goals, we become strangely loyal to performing daily trivia until ultimately we become enslaved by it."  Robert Heinlein

DDD

#7
May 30 11 10:26
P.C. wrote:
[SPAN style="FONT-WEIGHT: bold"]For no reason at all....YES GO AWAY[/SPAN]

 Has to be something wrong with someone who doesn't like somebody for no reason at all.  I'd wonder how long before other issues pop up.  

 So true.........
God is great, beer is good and people are crazy!

Lil Me

#8
May 30 11 09:05
When someone doesn't like someone else "for no reason", there's usually some kind of personal insecurity involved.
"In the absence of clearly-defined goals, we become strangely loyal to performing daily trivia until ultimately we become enslaved by it."  Robert Heinlein

Sportsdude

#9
May 31 11 01:08
 Everybody loves my parents, especially my mom. I wouldn't seriously date a person if they hated my parents for any reason. If a girl got to the point in the relationship where she met my parents, family, etc, it means the relationship is quite serious -- my answer is based on the fact that I'm not local, but I don't understand this Vancouver social norm of seeing the other person's parents three days after you started dating...

I've never seen a marriage/long term relationship last when one partner hated/disliked the other spouse's mom, dad or family (if the parents are still together, etc).
"We can't stop here. This is bat country."

Natasha

#10
Jun 01 11 11:20
DDD wrote:
P.C. wrote:
[SPAN style="FONT-WEIGHT: bold"]For no reason at all....YES GO AWAY[/SPAN]

 Has to be something wrong with someone who doesn't like somebody for no reason at all.  I'd wonder how long before other issues pop up.  

 So true.........

 

 There must be something wrong with the person who stays as well.


 I don't believe there's ever a "no reason" to things. There's always a reason. Maybe not a big reason, could be a stupid reason but there's a always a reason. Seems to me like some people just don't want to be honest about their reasons for some things. Some times a person can pick up that vibe which makes them feel unwelcomed or disliked. We've all picked up vibes like that online. Can you imagine how intensely higher that vibe would be if we were face to face with those same people? Either way, I wouldn't end the relationship. Not as long as everyone was being civil with one another.

Natasha

#11
Jun 01 11 11:29
Sportsdude wrote:
Everybody loves my parents, especially my mom. I wouldn't seriously date a person if they hated my parents for any reason. If a girl got to the point in the relationship where she met my parents, family, etc, it means the relationship is quite serious -- my answer is based on the fact that I'm not local, but I don't understand this Vancouver social norm of seeing the other person's parents three days after you started dating...


 What difference does it make when the family meets the girl?  People put too much pressure on themselves and each other about meeting the family.

 
I've never seen a marriage/long term relationship last when one partner hated/disliked the other spouse's mom, dad or family (if the parents are still together, etc).

 And just because a person loves their partners parents doesn't mean the couple will stay together.


  

Sportsdude

#12
Jun 04 11 11:54
a) I live far away from wherever I would be dating
 b) She would be coming to my place for Christmas, meeting the family and the relatives, etc.
 c) Option B would only happen if I thought the relationship was serious, etc, etc.

I'm not suggesting that if someone likes the in-laws it automatically means a successful marriage, I'm just taking note from what I've seen, etc.
It's a reflection of my own upbringing; everyone is different.




   
"We can't stop here. This is bat country."

P.C.

#13
Jun 05 11 06:36
"I'm not suggesting that if someone likes the in-laws it automatically  means a successful marriage, I'm just taking note from what I've seen,  etc.
It's a reflection of my own upbringing; everyone is different."

I'm with you on this on Sportsdude (oh ya, HI)  There has to be a better shot at success when there is a mutual 'like' for and from everyone concerned.  When you have the support pulling for you from all sides, that can only be a good thing.  They always say too, that if you want an idea of what your potential spouse is going to look like in 30 years, look at their parents.  It's usually a pretty good indicator.
     
Sir Isaac Newton invented the swinging door....for the convenience of his cat.

Sportsdude

#14
Jun 06 11 11:05
 P.C. wrote:
I'm with you on this on Sportsdude (oh ya, HI)  There has to be a better shot at success when there is a mutual 'like' for and from everyone concerned.  When you have the support pulling for you from all sides, that can only be a good thing.  They always say too, that if you want an idea of what your potential spouse is going to [span style="font-weight: bold; font-style: italic;"]look[/span] like in 30 years, look at their parents.  It's usually a pretty good indicator.
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Hi P.C.!

I laughed when I read this, because I can't remember a time when we agreed on something. ;)


 


 
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